I'm having an affair with a married man!
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I'm having an affair with a married man!
| Mon, 08-18-2003 - 8:38pm |
I've been having an affair with a this man for about 2 months and he is so wonderful, I think I'm falling in love and I don't want to! I'm scared and confused! I don't want these feelings help me!

A's don't get easier, they get harder usually, it's a roller coaster and you gotta keep focused on what's best for you. I've been in an EMA for 18 months now, and although the good times.. r sooooo good, the bad times suck and can last longer then the good moments.
If I had all this to do over again, I wouldn't of fallen in love with my MM, I'd of run. NO just kidding, I love him, and I appreciate what we have, but I never ever knew what I signed up for, until recently, and it took a lot of hard times to realize what I wanted and what I am willing to put up with.!
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I can tell you're hurting and I'm sorry. I just wanted to try to give you my perspective. I have been involved in an affair with a MM for a few months now. I am also married. We started out as friends and kind of fell into this A out of longing for things that were missing in our own marriages. Both of us have things in our Ms that make us unhappy but neither of us are willing to leave them as of yet. What we give each other is a kind of a temporary escape from the unhappiness and stress we have. And yes, of course, I know that many people think this is horribly wrong. I question it myself many times. And, yes,I do think about his wife and children, as well as my own husband and sons. I don't want any of them to be hurt. But right now we are both willing to risk it for the happiness we give each other. Please know that I am not expecting you to understand this, and especially not agree with it, but you wanted another perspective.
However, what I want to remind you is that you can't just blame the OW. Your husband is also an adult and chose to enter this affair with her. I don't know your situation so I certainly can't comment on why he did this to you and your children. I have no idea what type of person the OW is and if she is caring or not. But, if their situation is like mine, they didn't intend to hurt anyone. I hope that's the case. I know that probably doesn't help. I feel for you, honestly. I hope things get better for you soon. I don't know if this post has helped any but at least you have another point of view.
TA
I know you are hurting right now... and I know that it is so hard to understand the others point of view... and in honesty... you never will.
I'm not going to give you a whole run down of justifaction of my actions or anyone else on this board... just know that there is more to the story than... the other woman.
I've nothing against you being around and seeing what you can learn... if anything... from being here... but I do think you may benefit more from other boards... more suited to your situation.
Try either...
Healing After Betrayal http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlhealingaft
or
Betrayed Spouses Support http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rladultery
I believe there are a wonderful bunch of women on board that have been there and done that and have struggled to understand what you are going through right now.
I wish you all the best in healing and whatever life holds for you.
luv and hugs
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