I'm having trouble dealing~

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2003
I'm having trouble dealing~
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Sat, 11-01-2003 - 12:27pm
Hi everyone~

I'm having trouble dealing with both relationships. I have been having an EMA for 4 months now...I'm married and my OM is married also. I am not sure what I want out of the EMA or my own Marriage anymore. I see my OM once a week and talk to him daily by phone & we email one another daily....I'm having trouble dealing with both relationships and have started not being very nice to my husband. He irrates me and is driving me nuts with stupid things that is just his personality . Is this normal? how many of you have noticed the changes in yourself and your marriage because of the EMA? I can not be loving and touchy with my H anymore....and I am finding I just want to be alone....I'm not feeling well today and alot of this is just adding to it. I hope it makes some kind of sense to you....

I don't know what I want and I just am looking for advice on balancing both relationships....Can someone help? I do love my H still and I need to get this under control or drop one of the relationships but I don't know how.,

Thanks, Wishing~

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-06-2003
Sat, 11-01-2003 - 1:00pm
All I can suggest is really try to figure out why who had an EMA in the first place. Try seeing a couselor to help you sort things out. Once you try to see why you did it in the first place, it will help you decide. Maybe there are qualities/emotions your MM has that your H doesn't. OR maybe you don't like being married to H and MM is your way to escape? (These are just examples). You really need to look at these things.

Things will work out in the end. Just be honest with yourself, and do what makes you happy. Good luck to you.