I'm just rambling

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Registered: 03-18-2004
I'm just rambling
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Fri, 05-07-2004 - 2:50pm
Last December I ran into my highschool sweetheart. I had not seen him in fifteen years. He and I lived in different towns so we were never an actual couple so to speak as he always had a girlfriend and I always had a boyfriend so we were just there for one another on a very good buddy basis. Even after we both graduated we kept in contact, meeting up occasionally, hanging around together and were just real comfortable with one another. Almost like we knew the other would always be there. Anyway fast forward all these years and I learn how much he's missed our partnership (I've always been ga-ga about him cuz he's absolutely gorgeous). We are both relatively happily married, actually we've never really discussed our relationships. We've met for numerous lunches where we chat about old times and flirt. He'll tell me I smell nice and that sort of thing. It just feels really good to have my buddy back. The other day he phoned to invite me to lunch. We've found a nice italian restaurant here in town and the waitress is a hoot. Unfortunately I had already gone to lunch and I missed his initial call. That evening I went to the local bar with my husband for a burger and who should walk in but my highschool sweetheart. D'oh!! He had seen my truck parked outside and thought perhaps I might be there alone. He entered and I said "hey" and he said "hey" back. My H asked "A friend of yours?" Why yes he is. Over my 18 years of being with my H I had mentioned a time or two about this particular individual. I guess I'm just rambling here, feeling a bit sentimental over falling back into a comfortable friendship. Can't even say whether it would be considered an A - I suppose if push comes to shove I'd tell my H that I met a friend for lunches.

Thanks for letting me ramble.

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Registered: 03-30-2004
Fri, 05-07-2004 - 4:15pm
hi creampuff and welcome to the board. well, you are having an emotional A, if nothing else. you are attached to your MM through years and years of sharing (plus that ga-ga attraction!) AND you are not totally open about the R with your H. but if you want to keep MM as your friend, you should be careful not to flirt, or eventually one of you will overstep the boundaries and you'll be on the rollercoaster with the rest of us!!

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