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Wed, 11-26-2003 - 1:13am
okay so i cheated on my husband less than a year ago with his best friend. since then i havent seen this friend due to a move across the country. well i miss him. things didnt work out with my husband and we are going through a divorce now. funny thing is just today the best friend emailed my husband asking if i would mind him coming to visit me. my husband didnt even mind and called to ask if it would be alright. i have VERY strong feelings for this person and wonder if we should starting something serious. at the time of the infedelity both of us talked and wished we had met at an earlier time so that things could have worked diffently...well now we have a chance. do i sound like a complete idiot or should i go for it? i have never cheated before and never since have i even considered it. i feel like i might love this person but everyone says i just love the idea of him. any advice??

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Registered: 11-17-2003
In reply to: littleredlost
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 9:43am
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Edited 3/10/2004 4:50 pm ET ET by geek_chic
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Registered: 11-26-2003
In reply to: littleredlost
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 1:48pm
okay so i wasnt completely clear. he doesnt have any way to contact me. he is in the military and outside the usa right now. we had very stong feelings for each other and he KNOWS i am hardly my husbands property. thanks for the advice though. sorry i wansnt completly clear about the contact thing though. looking at it now i am lol about how stupid it sounded:P
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: littleredlost
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 2:30pm
Take it slow - don't jump into anything.

Get to know him - if he is over seas, write letter, or e-mail depending on where he is and what he does. Have yourself a good old fashion romance!!!!

One thing with him calling your husband - he (your husband) know up front that he was going to see you, so it should make things better for the two of you.

Talk a lot - it is important.

Good Luck

EJ

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Registered: 10-23-2003
In reply to: littleredlost
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 3:05pm
Hey there Littleredlost...Im so glad you decided to join us here. Eventhough your EMA happened a year ago it is clearly still fresh in your memory and in your heart. Im sorry to hear that your marriage has gone sour on you also. Fortunately, it wasnt a result of your EMA...

I would suggest you take things slow only because there is alot of healing to be done after a divorce and if you dont address certain things now, they may haunt you later...

Make you your first priority and all will be good!

cl-liberalgirl

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