IM PREGNANTAND ITS NOT MY HUBBY'S

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Registered: 03-12-2009
IM PREGNANTAND ITS NOT MY HUBBY'S
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Thu, 03-12-2009 - 5:25pm

I HAD A ONE NIGHT STAND WITH A DISTANT FRIEND OF MY HUBBY'S WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED

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Registered: 07-03-2007
Tue, 03-17-2009 - 3:02pm
This is one time I think I see things in a bit of a black and white view. To me you have two choices. You can have the baby or not. If you have the baby I think you have no choice but to come clean with what happend. It is not you or your H you should be thinking of but THE BABY!! I agree with all the others who say the truth will come out sooner or later and think of

 

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Registered: 03-12-2009
Tue, 03-17-2009 - 3:41pm
I would have considered it back in the day but to be 100% honest i cant do it now. I am at risk for not having babies becuase of my eptopic which i feel came about becuase of a abortion i had before my 2nd pregnancy at a not so trustful clinic
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Registered: 07-23-2004
Tue, 03-17-2009 - 5:38pm
You know that it will be a terrible burden for you to live the lie for years never knowing when the truth will come out. It will haunt you forever and shall probably destroy your
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Registered: 02-05-2009
Tue, 03-17-2009 - 8:43pm

Hi reese,

I know how you feel; I got pg when I was 20 and I wasn't 100% sure who was the father. I was praying that it was with my bf but I was not sure. I stressed over it for 9 months and when he was born I kind of knew it was my bf's, he looked like him, and the baby had my blood type so I knew I probably would never have to tell. I never had a paternity test. He is now 18 and looks like his dad (I didn't stay with his father).

I guess you need to think about if you are ready to raise him as a single mom if ever the baby is not your H's and he decides to leave you. If the answer is yes then you can consider keeping the baby. That's how I made my choice to keep my son. Second, regarding telling your H, my advice is to do what you feel is best in your heart for you and your baby. You'll have some time to think about it, anyway, since the baby won't be here for a few months.

I would definitely not tell your H's friend that it might be his baby unless you are ready for the fact that he could tell someone else, or want to be in his child's life.

good luck,

trixie

Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to
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Registered: 08-17-2008
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 12:54am
you need to count the days of your last period
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Registered: 03-26-2007
Mon, 03-23-2009 - 6:22pm
It sounds like it might be best to just keep your mouth shut and have the baby. As long as the other dude looks kind of like your husband no one will be the wiser. Based on what you written your husband is not the type that will accept hearing that it might not be his so there is no point sharing that info with him. Also, based on what you written, in all likelihood you'll end up divorced in the future anyhow so if you really want the baby then at least you'll have that to take with you after the divorce happens.
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Registered: 10-29-2004
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 9:17am

Did you see my reply from your post in the other boards?


I went through the same thing...still going through it.

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Registered: 03-17-2009
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 11:01am

Reese,


I am sorry to hear that you are in the situation that you are in.

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Registered: 07-20-2007
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 11:08am

Reese


I know you have ALOT to consider but just wanted to encourage you to get more accurate info re:

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