I'm so angry!

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Registered: 01-10-2004
I'm so angry!
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Thu, 05-13-2004 - 6:29pm

I can't believe this. I'm so angry and upset and frustrated cause I can't physically strangle him right now!!


Been with my MM for 4 years. We've had problems, but we've gotten through them. Anyway, he's having trust issues with me (again). Well,

 

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 8:03pm
Sweetie....you LD lover seems to have control issues. He wants it his way or you get punished. I would just ignore him for a couple of days (but be sure to read any email he sends) as he DID say he'd communicate this way. He will probably change his tune if he doesn't hear from you for a bit, and then if he's still singing out of key, send him an EMAIL telling him all about your next outing with your ex.

On a more serious note, ending it would set you free from those LDD's (long distance demons)

T.

**Terri**

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Registered: 01-10-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 8:32pm

You hit the nail on the head, :)! He does have control issues and when things don't go his way he does this crap to me.

 

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Registered: 02-07-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 9:25pm
I know exactly what you are going through. My A was over 5 years and the last year it was a LDA. Those demons can play havoc on your mind. The A ended in October. My OMM also had control issues. He would punish me for everything. But them I found out he was talking to another woman he met at work. I ended it as soon as I found out, of course he lied about everything. The hardest thing was to get over the NC. He still calls but I try to keep it cool. I miss him and the A, and it breaks my heart to know they can walk away so easy. Be strong and always put yourself first. Good luck and keep us posted.
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Registered: 05-05-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 9:25pm
you go girl! stop answering those emails so quickly and see how things change with mister control!

maybe now is the bast time to release those demons. And hold on to the emails about the ex untill you need ammunition!


Stay strong!

Saag

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Registered: 01-10-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 10:28pm

Oh my goodness!! I thought about maybe he is talking to another women at work because he would

 

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 10:50pm
Me too!! I am so angry with him right now that I could smack him. He called me "fat" in front ppl that were not friendly to beginr with in the first place. All from a man who calls me the "woman of his dreams", huh?? Then I start to cry - he calls me clingy and needy. Then after I refuse his advances on the phone - he tells me he feels that he is being used sexually!! WTF???? Where do my needs and issues come into the picture?? Its him all the time, damnit. I want to be selfish too. I tell you I have cried for this man this past week like no other man. That's it I can take it no more. Damn him!

Juliet (feeling blue and used)

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 8:28am
What does he mean, he'll "reevaluate" it?
cl-noregretsyet (co-cl of MAS board)
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Fri, 05-14-2004 - 12:22pm

That's what I tell him ALL THE TIME. He has always given me hassle about it. I know it's wrong.


Re- Evaluate. That's what I said!! After 4 years too! I haven't stopped thinking about it. It makes me scream every time I think about it. Because he has always been this way and I have always let myself.


The thing is that he set me up. After a little more then a week of disagreeing through email. We had made some progress, but he wouldn't talk to me on the phone. So here I am thinking we're OK. Then he says he wants to just stay with email to see how we do. I couldn't believe it!!


Anyway, here I am now just trying to be strong. The right thing to do is end it. I just need the strength too because it was really crappy what he did