I'm so sad and conflicted

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Registered: 02-23-2009
I'm so sad and conflicted
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Tue, 03-17-2009 - 7:53am
This weekend we spent some time with a bunch of friends, the guy I'm confused over, included.

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Wed, 03-18-2009 - 5:29am

Hello confused,


I too have been there, done that! Believe me if you are confused now over your feelings then you dont want to go further down the line.


I go friendly with another man and b4 I knew where I was he was in my mind 24/7, I was drawn too him, I couldnt imagen what harm it could do, i was happily married and NEVER looked at another man until this time


I asked my bf for advice and she told me to stay away, If I was feeling like this I was already in further than I should be! No, I thought I could control my feelings and the thought of not having any contact with him caused me pain,so I carried on.


The feelings will fade if you dont feed them, occupy yourself, do something else just dont allow yourself to think too much.


Eventually we gave into temptation and had a physical affair and the pain is so much worse than you can imagian. I wish I had never gone down that road. The worse thing I ever did, it made me into two different ppl. My dh & dc suffered, i was never there with them in spirit I was always thinking of / dreaming of the om. It is nearly 3 yrs since it started and I am still suffering (this is without dh finding out).


SImple things as our wedding anniversary, he gave me a beautiful card and I felt that I didnt deserve it, what if he knew how whould he feel. When he told me he loved me, I died inside as I betrayed him int he worse way possible. The list is endless.....


Please stay away from this path, if I could turn back time......... I would

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 03-18-2009 - 9:52am

Hello,


I am not judging at all.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Wed, 03-18-2009 - 10:51am

Excellent post, hopefull.


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2009
Wed, 03-18-2009 - 5:47pm

I'm appreciative of all the comments, harsh or not.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 03-18-2009 - 10:38pm

Confused,


Yes, it would be best if you could establish NC for life with this person.

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