i'm so sad and down

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Registered: 08-13-2002
i'm so sad and down
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Sat, 08-16-2003 - 12:20pm
For all of you read my last post about meeting MM yesterday, well it didn't happen. With the Blackout, that happen on Thurday afternoon, he just got really busy at his job and on Friday morning he called to cancell. I was extremelly crushed by that, and only becauce i haven't see him for 15 days and i won't hear from him again for the next 9 days, because he will be off next week at home with W. I am so upset. I don't know how to handle this. We talked on the phone all day and i made sure he knew how i was feeling. I hate the time off so badly. I don't know how to handle this relationship any more and how i let it survive. I just want to cry. Next week will be so hard for me. We are supposed to see each other on the week he comes back twice, and for now that's the only thing i can look forward. But i'm still feeling so hurt for him not to make a bit more of effort to see me yesterday. Should i get over that or what? I now i'll be a wreck just imagining what he will be doing all week long. I need alot of support and understanding right now...thank you.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-16-2003 - 12:44pm
I know this is hard sometimes. If he is going to be with his wife all week, he could take a few minutes to call you. After all, they aren't siamese twins. Can't say as I understand that. Anyway, good that you let him know how you feel. Sometimes mine is so busy with work, I feel there should be more of an effort and I tell him. But things DO get in the way at times. At least you will be seeing him not too long from now. Bear in mind, I haven't seen mine in almost a year. So you should consider yourself lucky to be able to see him more often. Nine days is a short break from my standpoint. As for yesterday, yes it is disappointing when they cancel. But it's not the end of the world. Be angry and then get past it and move on to when you will be seeing him (very soon).

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Registered: 07-27-2003
Sat, 08-16-2003 - 12:54pm
I haven't seen mine in a month. We've only talked on the phone twice, but he does email me very day. I know how hard it is!! Just know that he is thinking of you, and keep thinking about how wonderfully intense the sex will be with him when you two finally meet up again. That should get you through. It's been working for me. Hang in there!

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-16-2003 - 2:18pm
Thanks Charlotte for those encouraging words. That is exactly what I have been thinking. We recently had a physically charged telephone conversation which we later told each other put us in quite a state of mind. We haven't been physical at all yet. But it is intensifying nevertheless. To keep something going this long (over a year) from this distance has to have some credence in it.
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Registered: 08-13-2002
Sat, 08-16-2003 - 3:12pm
We haven't been together sexually yet. Yesterday we we're expecting to get more intimate, after i told him i would not be wearing a bra. We're getting much more close than a few months ago when we would jut kiss. But yesterday it was true disappointment after all the expectations we had throught the whole week. He lives very far from me, and his W just expects and controls him to much. But i know that if he really wanted he could make a way of seeing me and he doesn't which makes me very upset. I know that when he comes back to work and we talk again i just get all happy to be close to him again. We're seeing each other twice that week, that's what i said to him yesterday, because he has to make it up to me, and he agreed.