I'm so scared.....
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I'm so scared.....
| Tue, 04-20-2004 - 11:16am |
I'll try to make this as short as possible. Started having an affair last July with a friend. We both were in terrible marriages. I knew once my marriage was bad enough that I would resort to an affair that it was time to leave. So I did. I didn't leave for another man even though there was one. OM has always claimed that he was leaving his wife from the beginning. Now that is happening. I should be SO happy that he is getting a divorce but I am not. I'm afraid that he is going to tell me that he wants to see other people once he is divorced. I came right ou and asked him and he said he doesn't know how he is going to feel in the future. He said knowone knows how they will feel. I wanted to die.
What should I do? Should I stick with it and see? I love him so much that I'm afraid he's going to break my heart. We have been so close for the past 9 months that I can't imagine him not being in my life. Am I kidding myself?
Thanks
What should I do? Should I stick with it and see? I love him so much that I'm afraid he's going to break my heart. We have been so close for the past 9 months that I can't imagine him not being in my life. Am I kidding myself?
Thanks

can you just let this new phase of your R with MM develop for awhile and see how it goes? keep yourself busy and do whatever makes you happy - walking, reading, dancing, shopping, whatever! don't sit around thinking about the "what ifs" and driving yourself crazy. once MM is actually separated, invite him over for dinner. actually date him. and if he doesn't want exclusivity with you, then go out with friends, have a date or two with other guys (and don't feel weird, it's not marriage, just a date) and if you two are meant to be together, you will be.
relax a bit and try not to drown in the unknown. stay strong and keep your chin up honey.
life
Secret, If you truly care about this man you will stay even through the unknowns.
just my opinion, but you're gonna have to take control of your life very soon and tell OM to get off the fence and make a decision one way or the other. and soon..... he's not playing fair, keeping you on the hook knowing you're in love with him, and not being open and honest with you.
you just may have to get more assertive to find out what's really going on in his head.
again, be strong and take care of YOU!!
life