I'm so stupid

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Registered: 03-25-2004
I'm so stupid
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Fri, 04-16-2004 - 8:31am
I'm just so daft sometimes. My OM and I had a wonderful night last night - we were together for 4 1/2 hrs, and didn't waste a minute of them! Only one problem though, we didn't use any contraception. He told me he'd been too busy to buy condoms, and I can't buy any in case hubby finds them! Last night I didn't care, he told me he was clean, and I trust him completely, and I know I am (H is the only other man I have ever been with). Today though I'm panicking. What if I got pregnant? I can't even get to the chemist for the morning after pill as I have my 3 kids here all day, and my H is home in a few hours and we are going straight up to his brothers for a family do. I won't be on my own again until Monday, which would be too late. I'm just terrified. We (OM and me) were careless once before (our first time together), and nothing happened, so I should be ok this time, right? Am I worrying over nothing? And how can I make sure it doesn't happen again? My head says, no condoms, no sex, but when I get with my OM, my head goes to pieces and nothing matters.

Help!!

Vamp

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Fri, 04-16-2004 - 8:38am
vamp

My MM had a vasectomy when we first started seeing each other. I threw out my sponges (those Americans reading this will know what that is :) ) Anyway, he had had his vasectomy but hadn't been checked yet to make sure there weren't any little boys and girls swimming about. Well we had sex w/o anything.... I ended up being a day late and was freaking out. It was early in my cycle though when we did have sex so I figured I hadn't ovulated yet but was still on pins and needles..

Where are you in your cycle? Do you know when you ovulate? I kinda new because years ago when I was trying to get pregnant I checked it for a few months. A douche right after might have helped somewhat also.

If you think about it the odds are against you being pregnant. It took me and my husband about 3-4 months to get pregnant having sex every other day at the least!

I hope the best for you vamp and try try not to worry!

deedee

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Fri, 04-16-2004 - 9:25am
I don't know whereabouts in my cycle I am . My last period started 4th April, and I'm fairly regular every 28-30 days, but don't really know when the danger times are!

Am very scared here, how on earth would I explain this one? I already have 4 kids, and my OM has 2, so I really don't want any more. My last one goes to school this September and I'm looking forward to some time to myself, and time with my OM.

Why do I have to be so daft?

Vamp

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Fri, 04-16-2004 - 9:33am
vamp

seems you are early in your cycle. But I know that we ovulate at different times. Just reassure yourself that one time (even though it can happen) is not typically enough to get you pregnant. The odds are you are not pregnant. No use getting yourself worked up. Is there really NO WAY you can get out alone to get that pill? If you think hard enough you may find a way out of the house today.

If not try to stay calm, worry can make you late too. Tell yourself you're not going to worry about it until your period is due, then pop a tampon in on the day you are due and get busy doing other things believing you are starting your period. That will help you relax and NOT be late!

I hope this helps

deedee

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 9:41am
Don't worry vamp. If you were not close to the O date and you do ovulate like clockwork, I don't think you might have to worry about a possible pregnancy. Don't try this again just for your and OM' s peace of mind. ;-) Good Luck!
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Fri, 04-16-2004 - 10:08am
I tend to think that some times these fears and jolts are a manner of fate nudging us when we are on the wrong track. In any case, I suggest that you do get yourself to the chemist or the emergency to get the morning after pill. I believe it is effective only within 72 hours of sexual activity so you still have time but I think you should definitely take it since although the chances of you becoming pregnant might be remote but they do still exist and if it does happen you shall have a bigger and worse dilemma at hand than now which is how to get yourself to the chemist.

PG

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 10:17am
WOW Philly you seem to know a lot about the Plan B pill effective time period and such. You are quite informed I must say!
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Fri, 04-16-2004 - 10:24am
Juliet,

The women here don't beat me for this....only trying to be sarcastic and funny....here it goes....although I have opened my heart to other men besides H....haven't opened my legs yet *smile*.

I had the pill once when my H and I had unprotected sex and just recently had our third baby so had to get to the emergency to get it.

The pill cost $72 bucks but the emergency visit cost a lot and was not covered by insurance. So if one can get it from the pharmacy ..great..but if no alternative should get it from emergency.

:-)

PG

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 10:34am
Good for you about not opening your legs to anybody except to your H. Very commendable if you ask me . ;-)

I didn't think you were the type to use Plan B pill for family planning being a devout muslim and all, esp if it were only the third child. :-)

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Fri, 04-16-2004 - 10:41am
Juliet

Family planning is permissible in Islam and so is wild passionate sex :-P (with the right person of course) and secondly it would have been the fourth one...not that I mind a dozen...it was more like there wasn't enough gap.

PG

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Registered: 04-12-2004
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 10:42am
Get to the chemist!! Sorry don't mean to be judgemental. But even if it means throwing all 3 kids in the car. As someone else pointed out, it will be a lot more inconvenient than that if something happens.

Please do it. It happened to me. And I was on the pill!!!

I don't want to say what I did about it because I know there are various religions on this board and it is not something I ever wanted to do or that I even believe in, but with H and W and 6 children between MM and I, I couldn't ruin so many lives for the sake of one. :(

It was horribly difficult please just figure out a way to get your pills.

You would figure out a way to see your MM if there was an opportunity.....please do it.

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