I'm so stupid

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Registered: 03-25-2004
I'm so stupid
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Fri, 04-16-2004 - 8:31am
I'm just so daft sometimes. My OM and I had a wonderful night last night - we were together for 4 1/2 hrs, and didn't waste a minute of them! Only one problem though, we didn't use any contraception. He told me he'd been too busy to buy condoms, and I can't buy any in case hubby finds them! Last night I didn't care, he told me he was clean, and I trust him completely, and I know I am (H is the only other man I have ever been with). Today though I'm panicking. What if I got pregnant? I can't even get to the chemist for the morning after pill as I have my 3 kids here all day, and my H is home in a few hours and we are going straight up to his brothers for a family do. I won't be on my own again until Monday, which would be too late. I'm just terrified. We (OM and me) were careless once before (our first time together), and nothing happened, so I should be ok this time, right? Am I worrying over nothing? And how can I make sure it doesn't happen again? My head says, no condoms, no sex, but when I get with my OM, my head goes to pieces and nothing matters.

Help!!

Vamp

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 10:45am
Family planning is permissible? Last I heard an Imam speak I didn't think so. Anyway, you could belong to a differnet sect than Shia or Sunni muslims I knew. Anyway, I was surprised you used Plan B, that's all.
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Registered: 01-19-2004
Fri, 04-16-2004 - 10:55am
Juliet,

I am a Sunni Muslim and do keep in mind that some Imams may present the issue based upon what their personal perspective is. The main point is what the majority of scholars have said about the issue based upon Koran (the Holy Book) and Hadith (Prophet's sayings). Contraception is allowed, abortion is not. Based upon different scientific findings, morning after pill may tend to belong more towards the former than latter. In any case, its not the preferred way to go and Vamp probably doesn't have her religious convictions preventing her but the fact that its difficult for her to get to the chemist.

Vamp should definitely take the pill..thats what I was advising her. Its a serious matter.

PG

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