I'm starting to fall hard now

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Registered: 12-07-2003
I'm starting to fall hard now
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Sun, 12-21-2003 - 1:37am
My MMs W is out of town with their kids, and we've had a wonderful few days together. Of course, she will be back tomorrow afternoon i think, and now i'm starting to have concerns. I'm single, with 2 kids and a group of neighbors went out last night. There was a lot of innocent flirting, as there were several guys, and just me and one other girl. I think she knows what's really going on, maybe wasn't positive till last night. But she has seen the way his W treats him (physically abusive at times) and i'm not too worried that she'll spill the beans. I stayed the night with him again last night, and my kids were at home with 2 sitters from the neighborhood. I didn't really think about that at the time, and now it's dawned on me that they must have some idea of where I was, and I don't know if they have put it together yet. and, there's another guy (also married, with his W out of town too) that was out with us all last night that has made advances towards me before, and I think he finally caught on last night. i worry that if he's jealous or disappointed, that he may be upset enough to mention something to his W, who is friends with MMs W. Now i'm wondering if i should just back away, but then i think of the great few nights we had, and don't think i want to give it all up right now. But i have a feeling his W will be more watchful of his every move when she gets back. She's been suspicious before, and now that he and i have really dug deeper into this A, i worry that he's going to act a little strange around her. He told me last night that he's never had an EMA before. and i have seen others that are in EMAs and how differently they act around their H/W, especially if the other persons name comes up in conversation. He also told me last night that his entire family wants him to leave her, all his coworkers can't stand her. But he's worried about his kids and how that would affect them. I just think that after the last few days, now we're in this way further than either of us planned when it first started. i'm really beginning to care about him, and don't want to ruin his marriage. I don't know if i should end it, or just kinda take it slow right now, see how it goes after she gets home. I think if she finds out, she'll take the kids and leave the state, which would truly break his heart. but he's so miserable with her and claims to have been for years. i just don't know what to do anymore!
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Registered: 11-13-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 4:11pm
It is nice to hear that you had a few wonderful days with him. Just take it slow right now and enjoy your relationship. Time will tell where it might lead for you.