I'm tired, really tired, need help to break free
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|Thu, 08-16-2012 - 11:45pm|
Had a very manipulative H, now AP is one. I did it all over again by falling for another manipulative, pathological liar. He claims he loves me, cares about me, but his little lies are killing me. I'm done really done, but how do I break free? how do I tell him I'm done with him.
My story: I was married to a pathological liar and manipulating man for over a decade, have 3 children under 10. currently separated from H and D is coming up soon.
Been with AP for over a yr and a half, work with him, very close. He is very charming, calm person. But he has been lying to me about everything, his age, where he lives, his upbringing, what kind of car he drives. But yet, when we are together its like match made in heaven. He is very affectionate, shows he care, very attentive. We always go to places of my choice, always on time, always gives me 110% attention when we are together. He only says good things about me, all the time. He says how much he cares and how much he is in love with me, yet not leaving his W. I never asked him to leave his W. I have come to acceptance that this is a dead end road.
Now day in and day out I catch him lie more is to where he is going, why he is not calling/texting. Why didn't he come to work, why he left work early. The little lies wont even matter. But yet, he lies about. If he had had just told me the truth, it wouldn't have mattered, but he lies.
I'm very consumed by him as you can tell, I can't help it, he is every woman's dream guy (that's how he carries himself). He doesn't fight, never too loud, always, ALWAYS makes me believe I'm wrong, but in a very smooth way. He is very soft toned so there is no way I can either raise my voice or repeat, he puts me out "honey no need to argue, we have already talked about this"
I have a gut feeling that he is not only sleeping with me, there are others, I don't know why I'm feeling that way.
I know I will be devastated if we break up because he is the only one I got. He has been there with me through my separation process with my H (no he is not the reason I'm getting a D). We work together, we were good friends years before he became my AP.
I need to be strong and either confront him or just call it quits. How do I even call it quits........ I'm dying inside.....