Im in a world of trouble

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Registered: 05-28-2010
Im in a world of trouble
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Fri, 05-28-2010 - 11:48am

This is sorta strange... But heres a run down on this mess Ive made of my life....


I was a daily poster on this board for several years.. I was in a M and had a LDA that lasted for over 4 years. I divorced my H , moved in with my AP . Been divorced a year, and living with AP for about 6 months.


my huge huge problem: I MISS MY HUSBAND.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2010
Fri, 05-28-2010 - 12:15pm

You never said why

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2010
Fri, 05-28-2010 - 1:32pm

I was married at 17... had kids at 18... we were high school sweethearts.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-16-2005
Sun, 05-30-2010 - 11:39pm

Very similar situation here.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2010
Mon, 05-31-2010 - 6:02pm

I'm at a loss as to what to tell you. I'm so worried that you will go back to your ex and then change your mind again - and I'm wondering what that would do to him next time! I'm imagining how you will feel living with his parents (I think that's where you said he was living) and how you would cope with the expected animosity they would have towards you. Living in poverty with nothing, and hostile in-laws to boot. I just worry about your ex, if you run back to your comfy lifestyle if it gets too much to bear for you.

Please think about all the "outcomes" and how you're likely to deal with the negative aspects of the situation if you go back to him. His heart will be in your hand to keep safe or crush once again, and he may never be able to pull himself out of despair if you do it to him again. If you do go back, I strongly suggest counseling - for you individually and for the two of you for couples therapy.

Good luck sweetie, I hope whatever choice you make is good for all concerned!

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