Initiating Things

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Registered: 04-28-2010
Initiating Things
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Fri, 08-06-2010 - 9:41pm
I seem to be the one that initiates most, but not all of the contact with MM. I have asked him at times if my emails are too much (meaning too flirty) or too often and he says no that he enjoys them. When we get together for lunch, I am usually the one that brings up that we should do lunch or that I want to do lunch and he is always agreeable. My question is, if he is okay with it and I am okay with it, is it okay? I have read many posts on here about how some don't contact first or wait after they have made contact for a response from their AP. I don't really give it much thought and contact him when I want to, but I don't go overboard. Some days there are few emails and other there are more.
Do you think his not initiating contact more often keeps him from feeling guilty since he isn't starting things, but just responding to them?
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Registered: 08-05-2010
Fri, 08-06-2010 - 10:01pm
maybe it helps with his guilt, maybe he likes being 'pursued'..regardless, like you said, you are ok with the way things. Just go with it if it works for you two. Everyone is different.
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Registered: 03-26-2010
Fri, 08-06-2010 - 11:49pm

I do think it has to do with guilt.

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Sun, 08-08-2010 - 2:13am

This is not the right board for you g02july.


Regardless og who chases who, you cant make someone do anything they dont want to.

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