Insight Needed Badly!

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Registered: 04-13-2009
Insight Needed Badly!
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Tue, 05-12-2009 - 6:10pm

Hi,


So I've been flirting back and forth with this man since December (there's a past thread about it called confused about signals). Anyway, today, we had a meeting and I was doing some work for him that required a bit of investigation and he said 'you're really sneaky, aren't you' and laughed, but then he said it again more seriously in a flirty way. I didn't say much back. I stupidly told him that I noticed he had a few days off and asked what he was doing. He took a second to respond and then said he was taking a few days off with his family and wife to do some stuff. My heart dropped as that is the first time he has mentioned her to me since he made the small pass at me at the party months ago. I just said oh, that's nice and went on talking about business.


So, does this mean that I have been wrong all the way along and he's not interested in me at all? I'm just wanting to know where I stand before he travels to our office later this month. I'm just wondering now if I misread everything.


He lives far away. I wasn't look at him as going to leave his wife or anything like that, but I just thought there might be issues there or something if I was right and he was flirting.


Any insight?


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Registered: 04-05-2007
Wed, 05-13-2009 - 8:39am

You asked what he was going to be doing on his days off and he told you. Should he have lied and not mentioned his wife or family just because he might want an A with you? I don't understand why you think his statement has anything to do with whether his flirting was "real" or not. I wouldn't think it has anything to do with anything, it's just the truth.

If you wait, you'll know whether he "meant" the flirting or whether you misread anything. A man who wants to have sex with a woman will certainly let it be known. LOL!

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