Insights wanted please !

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Insights wanted please !
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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 8:20pm

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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 10:20pm
sireanita wrote:
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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 2:05am

I don't have a very good memory but if I'm not mistaken sireanita mentioned that she would be fine with having an AP rather than a BF/H.... and if I'm not mistaken again, the only issue would be having another child. Please correct me if I'm wrong sireanita, and I'm only saying these because in your recent post you only talked about him, and not what you want. As Sunny would say, don't let this become your life, but only an addition to it. I hope he returns soon though because I know LDRs are not easy, even when it's one-to-one.

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 9:30am
aphrodite-n-taurus wrote:
Whether he is having problems with his wife or not they really do have any bearing on your relationship, depending on the severity of the problems many of us wll stay in our M's, especially if there are children involved.
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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 9:36am
Iannman, this is a first serious answer to my post, thank you ! LOL
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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 2:58pm

Sireanita,

One thing I adore about you is how honest you are.

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 3:21pm
I'm impressed by your break down~JJ you need to break mine down to = )

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 3:45pm
Jane! What a pretty picture! You look happy. LOVE the hair!
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Mon, 03-26-2012 - 7:29am
Sireanita, He loves you and what you have. He is bringing his wife back, this will all be new and foreign to her, based on what you have written about him, he will stand by her, it is his obligation. He hopes "you can understand each other forever",he wants you in his life as an.AP. In all of your posts, he has never once said...I will leave my wife. Intact he has repeatedly told you he wouldn't. He is telling you the truth, he has been all along. He will keep you in his life as long as you are willing to accept your position as an AP. He won't break up with you. If you can handle being his AP, then be happy having him in your life, as a piece of your life, you can't let him be your everything. Just know this, If you are holding onto him with hopes of someday having him all to yourself, those odds look very slim and I am basing this on the things you have told us, he has said. I wish you peace in all of this, big hugs.
~Sunny~
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Mon, 03-26-2012 - 2:37pm

I totally agree with Sunnydays.

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Mon, 03-26-2012 - 3:07pm

Hi JJ,

thanks for the compliment. I love your insight, you always have great advice. And ditto about the nice picture LOL.

And thanks to the other ladies too :)

Actually I don't have a real hope of being with him. It's more like a leftover hope, similar to the one a person who stays in a miserable relationship feels.

The funny thing is that I don't mind his cheating. After reading these boards, I almost think that it's inevitable to some extent, more matter who I am with. And I probably prefer a cheating husband with whom I still have something good going on (he still takes care of his W despite his feelings for me) than with a faithful H, but with problems. Or is it love talking ? LOL

He just came back from Cuba and says that he can't wait to see me (and it's mutual). We had an email fight last week and after a few explanations, he told me that I'm the most amazing woman he has ever met. I know that it means nothing, didn't make me feel much better.

I think I'm going to get a rebound guy to distract myself and in general, fill up my life with activities. Next week I'm going to Miami (thanks to my mom who kindly agreed to babysit my son). And I'll see how I could fit him in my life as a positive addition, as opposed to being desperate for him.

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