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| Wed, 05-26-2010 - 4:11pm |
Though we've talked about AP before, we pretty much spent the entire session today talking about him, and "us".

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Thank you Bird! You know what - you are right! I decided not to just sit back and wait and suffer. I sent him a quick hi this morning. Couple of hours later (time difference and work schedule) he sent back a message and apologized for last night. Offered to call at lunch time. So when he called I let him know that I was hurt by yesterday's no return phone call and text, and that it was disrespectful to do that to me. I told him that I could understand that he fell asleep and missed the calling time frame, but that a text takes one minute, and that I deserved that.
He apologized and said he would try to do better.
SO...we'll see. No point in letting those squirrels run around in my head though. Usually after something like this I am much calmer and easygoing about the texts etc. and don't need as much!
Thanks again for the advice!
lol ...** takes a bow** ...good luck girls ;-)
Lets tell each other small successes in our new tactics.
A revolution! LOL .... Good for you LouLou!! :-)
Let us know when he does better hey?
Glad some of you have already done something similar to this and found success with it, and hope others find it helpful, too:).
You know, I've never had any of that push/pull with AP.
anotherseyes
As a guy, I hope you wouldn't mind my opinion.
Your therapist is right.
anotherseyes
Hi anotherseyes
That's really interesting what you said about women being to available. I think that is absolutely the case with me and my AP! Which by the way, stands for what exactly??
He was so into the affair at first but then pulled away. But then he'll want me again and it'll be great but then he'll pull away. So it's all in his control and because I like him so much, I'm always there whenever he wants me. I was also the one pushing for us to meet up again for a night together. It's just so confusing - sometimes I think he really likes me, other times not.
But I think I need to try this too - not being so available and ready to run to him. I feel like crap doing that.
This is so hard, I hate it.
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