Intro

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Intro
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Wed, 04-28-2010 - 2:22pm

I've been lurking on this board for a while now and thought it was time to introduce myself.

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Registered: 03-29-2010
In reply to: looking4grace
Wed, 04-28-2010 - 4:00pm

Welcome to MAS Looking!

I am running out the door momentarily but I wanted to welcome you first. I will comment more when I get back here (which might not be till tomorrow although I will try tonight). Maybe someone else will have some wise advice in my absence LOL.

And yeah - we all seem to have soap opera lives around here LOL.

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In reply to: looking4grace
Wed, 04-28-2010 - 4:25pm
I don't want to be rude or unwelcoming, but I am kind of puzzled - why young woman in her 30's who's never been married would be involved not just with one, but two useless MM? Soap opera is nothing new on these boards, so yeah, welcome to the club:)
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In reply to: looking4grace
Thu, 04-29-2010 - 7:41am

I would never judge your choices Looking, but gonebabygone has asked a legitimate question, in that you are single - how did you come to fall in love with a MM who, it appears, will never really be "yours" and might never want a physical relationship with you? You have an extremely unique situation - you are having a PA because you have needs that can not be met by the man you appear to be in love with, who is not only married, but unwilling to have a PA. Most single women in love with a MM are having a PA with that man, so the relationship is all around more satisfying.

It does make your situation quite unique!

How would your MM feel if you were to openly date others? I'm wondering about how HE feels, if he expects any sort of loyalty or fidelity even though there is no PA?

Anyway, welcome again to this crazy board LOL! Maybe we can help you "think out loud" and straighten out, in your mind, what you really want and need.

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In reply to: looking4grace
Thu, 04-29-2010 - 11:05am

It's not a matter of not wanting a physical relationship, it's a choice we have both made at this point in our relationship after having many discussions.

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In reply to: looking4grace
Thu, 04-29-2010 - 1:52pm
Yes, you cleared up some of the questions I had (not that you owed me answers mind you, but I can see the picture a little more clearly now). Thank you for that! I do hope to see you posting here!

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