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| Wed, 04-28-2010 - 12:26pm |
It was the “squirrel” thread that brought me out of lurkdom,
| Wed, 04-28-2010 - 12:26pm |
It was the “squirrel” thread that brought me out of lurkdom,
Hi again Kimber - and I'm giving you the OFFICIAL welcome to MAS! :-)
First off, you never explained (or I missed it) how you are a "sort of" MW. Isn't that like being a "little bit" pregnant? LOL...
As for the "limbo" you're in? Is it possible that that's exactly where your MM wants to be? He's comfortable with this EA (emotional affair) but not comfortable with anything physical? Maybe he thinks the physical stuff is far enough removed in time that you don't mind this easy (to him) EA going on now, with nothing more. I certainly can't say for sure that this is where his head is at, but it seems like it IMO.
See, if this is the case, it means that if you want more, you would have to seduce him into it, be the "temptress", and honestly, do you really want to do that? He'll always feel guilty and blame you if that's what you do. Despite the fact that he's a big boy making his own decisions, he will blame you and make you miserable every time he feels guilty.
I always tell people that if their AP feels guilty and has to be prodded for a PA - it really isn't worth it. But it's up to you, and up to you to decide if this sort of relationship is what you want. If it's not what you want, can you be happy with the EA, or is it better for you to end the A altogether?
Lots of things to consider. Maybe some other people here have some different perspectives also. Hope to see you posting more!
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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Thanks, Lexi :)
Ah...I knew that "sort of" was probably gonna sound like the M part...what I meant was I feel like I'm sort of in an A.
And your comments about me being the "temptress" are spot on and what caught my eye here before the "squirrels" convinced me to post.
Here's my dilemma, I suppose: MOST of the e-mails are talking about the physical stuff!!
Welcome to MAS, Kimber:)
I don't pretend to know what goes through a man's mind; Lord knows if I had any clue, I'd be a rich woman ;).