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| Fri, 04-17-2009 - 5:18am |
Just new to the site..and considering my present and past situation the discussions here do indeed touch many things that go thru my mind.
I am a mother, my crew raised and no longer M. I had it end when his AP became pregnant. That tends to put a small bit of glue in the machine.
I was single for many yrs but recently began seeing someone I have known for over twelve yrs...but its complicated and I think it makes you crazier when you think no one else can understand it..
And now I am rambling..just wanted to say hello!

welcome, wytch.
since you are D, should we guess that your someone is married or attached in some way? tell us about the complicated part so we can try to understand - and maybe help it seem less complicated.
Mrs.
He is. I had a real interesting moment realizing I had left one relationship because I was the last to know..and ended up in one with a great person I have known forever who has been estranged for years...and yeah that sums up part of the complication.
I was on one side of the spectrum when my before he was an ex- had an A. Now I am on the opposite side? Or so it often looks.
As much as things are great in all aspects - it seems this does not actually make it better all the time..or perhaps just confuses the heck out of me as this is at least to me new territory..so I am rather scattered in trying to make the right judgements on alot of things with our relationship.
Thanks, AP and I have been together about three yrs and the time does fy.
We share alot of common interests and since he is actually living seperate great distances from W we are able to pretty much hang out on platonic paths and also see each other quite frequently.
I hold no grand illusions. I am not looking to have him leave his situation unless its what he wishes to do. Its a complicated financial situation and I can understand that. We are pretty honest .
But there is a part of me..the old fashioned part that would prefer it if we were both S. I know old fashioned.
I think because having rode thru being on the other side of an A. with my EXH I just really dont wish to see anyone hurt uneeded. And as much as we both adore each other , there is that point where it has to move forewards or stop.
I walked away from it once. But it was too painful for both of us. So now I am enjoying our relationship as it is. And although he says he wants this to be more then it is, I wont be angry should he not be able to step forewards into being S. and in a committed relationship with me .
You take the good with the bad. And I know its gonna hurt like hell when that time comes If I am having to close that door. Trust me most of what I realize and tell myself I dont want to hear! LOL