How do you know he hasn't made an attempt to look for me? I don't know he hasn't...Maybe he has...Only he would know that if he hasn't FOUND you...If he didn't marry that girl how would my contacting him cause anyone pain? I thought in your original post you had information that you thought he was married but didn't want to pay to find out or couldnt go to the courthouse...remember there were more years (like 13)
I would just leave him be...It is many years later and things have changed..He hasn't made an attempt to