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It all comes back to you in the end.
| Thu, 10-23-2008 - 4:35pm |
You know, my husband and i had issues. I was the one who cheated first. Then about 3 months ago he told me he had a one night stand with this woman he met at a club. He couldn't even talk to her, but they knew enough to have sex. Now, I was hurt. I dont think I had any right to be hurt because of what I did, but I was. You see, I didn't know what it would feel like to have someone come and tell you " honey I have something to tell you". I know he is sorry because he would never have come clean about it. It happened two years ago, and he just now felt like he could come clean. I guess what I want you to know...is that in the end it all comes back. I will never cheat again because now I know what it feels like to be told those famous words. I think this was my wakeup call. It's not ok to do what we did, and people get hurt behind it. I hurt him by doing it, and he hurt me in return. Yes we are ok now, but my goodness it is hard to think about him and her. I bet he felt the same way about me. I feel bad because I know everything I feel, he felt. So, just think about that. Payback does not happen over night sometimes it is yrs down the road; when you think everything is ok. I am not mad at her, she wasn't the issue. I was upset with my husband, but couldn't really even be that. I know what it is to be cheated on and because I do....i will not never do that to him again. He made sure he could never see her again he got out of the section that went to that part of the world. So, unless she marries someone and has them bring her here....I wont have to worry about her, but I will always have to vision her in my mind. As for him...he came back to me. He never saw her again, never cheated again....he knows what he wants now. As for myself...I know it is not ok to do someone the way I did him.

Hi there and welcome to the board.
I am not really one that believes what goes around comes around - nor am I a big believer in Karma.
With that being said though - I do appreciate you posting your story - if for nothing else than it's a good reminder that no matter how much we want to think an A is all about the two people having the A - it's really all about everyone in both of their lives - and innocent people do get hurt every day.
One of the folders is for Both Sides of An Affair - put your first post there - I think you will be surprised at the support you will receive from most posters.
I'll make sure to look out for you - and bring my friends from that board along too.