Is it cheating without SEX?
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Is it cheating without SEX?
| Wed, 09-24-2003 - 6:37pm |
A married co-worker and I became VERY close I ended up telling him we had to quit hanging out because I was falling in love. He answered that he also had fallen for me, and we were both confused that we had fallen for each other and had never had sex. I am single and he married young--to he says now is the wrong woman for him but they have 2 kids and he could never put them through a divorce. He is not UNhappy with her, just thinks he would be VERY happy with me. I told him that as much as I want to be with him, I would never want him to leave FOR me. I asked him to ask himself this question: If I wasn't in the picture would he leave his wife? He said probably not. So until the day he leaves because he can't be in the same house with her, he needs to stay for the kids. My question is this: We hang out a LOT, take overnight trips, talk 2-4 times a day...pretty much spend every minute we can together when he doesn't have to be home with the kids. We have NOT had sex.....so is he cheating? His wife knows I exist. She asked if there were feelings involved. He told it, "Does it matter? I am not going anywhere." She never brought me up again. He says she's on the don't ask/ don't tell. I refuse to sleep with anyone with a wedding ring on their finger. Is it an affair?

I knew I was cheating the first time my OM and I kissed, and when I went home, I could not tell my DH every detail of the day, as I had always been able to do (not that I *would* tell him every detail of every day, who'd want to hear that! - but I could have). Even though we didn't kiss again for weeks, I knew we were starting an affair, and so did he, and both of us would date the start of our relationship to that date. BTW, we weren't physically intimate for months. But believe me, our *spouses* would certainly have considered that we were having an affair. Even if your MM's wife isn't asking about you, that does not mean your MM isn't cheating on her.