Is it equally reciprocated?
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Is it equally reciprocated?
| Mon, 12-15-2008 - 9:37am |
Is what you have between you and AP , be it craziness, madly in love or addiction to one another.. equally reciprocated by your AP ? or you are more crazy than AP or vice-versa?
In my A, the craziness is equally reciprocated.its holiday time and i dont feel it! he is constantly in contact,we still talk the same.the only difference is not being able to see each other often which is really tough.i miss his smell.... he says i am crazy,lol and i say the same to him.
Who is more crazy in your A ??

I have actually been thinking about this and I think that I am more crazy in this A than he is and I get very upset when I really look at things.
npain2008,
i am so sorry about how you are feeling.I would suggest you take a step back and go NC w/o telling him you are done and wait for him to ask you whats up.
A's do bring pain with them but dont you forget , its time to get out if the bad outweighs the good.
I'll keep you in my thoughts.
its such a nice feeling,isnt it?
Have you told other people about being in A with your AP? " to others because I hear about it from them. " My AP is too secretive and so am i even though i am S .Who all have you told?
Loving,
Thank you for your kind words and thoughts.
My AP was intiating, probably, 50 % of phone calls. One time, we went 3 days with NC and then we met at work. So i told him how I called him and he did not respond, I was not complaining or nagging, just wanted him to know that I called. He said he did not see a missed call and all that...He also made it clear before that he is happy with his W and he is working on his marriage. But the last time he told me how something was mising in his marriage and how we do not know where it will lead us. We talked about our marriages, I told him if He or my H walks out of my life one day, I will move on with my life and that there is no man who can make me happy and but I know what about me can make me happy as a person and I have to find it within me. I think it was a shock for him to hear from me that I am not afraid to end it. He called me today and was asking to see if we could meet tomorrow......I guess, our relationship is equally reciprocated, may be, sometimes misbalanced by either side. I am also alculative, I count that if I called him and he did not return my call, I should not be the one calling.....
yes, "whateva you wanna call him" is a nutcase too...oh boy the things we've said and done...all the while still loving each other and being in love....it's good that the both of us can still laugh with one another.....everything is always reciprocated except for gift....he gives money...i got a necklace one time but that's because we were in the mall and i was thinking about getting it..he bought it on the spot...i give gifts...
the love is reciprocated, the phone calls, i rarely ask to see him, he makes those arrangements...it makes me feel special because we see one another usually twice or 3 times a week now...i'm single and those times have to be on his free time...i can maneuver and manipulate my schedule ....no small kids in the way...(almost grown son) ..
yes he is a nutcase now that i think of it..we weren't even together on thanksgiving and "whateva you wanna call him" called me and said "he was about to get himself in trouble, leave and come to spend time with us" (this was me DS, and siblings, we always eat together..no parents or grands left so it's all of us 30 somethings at holidays and get togethers, it's really fun)
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
lol i feel my AP is crazier than I. We dont have a issue with contact, he keeps in contact with me all the time no matter where or what he is upto, and for any reason he knows that contact is going to be difficult he tells me beforehand, but having said this he still finds a way. My AP is the one that moans that we dont see enough of each other,
"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"