Is it really love????
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Is it really love????
| Fri, 09-19-2003 - 1:14pm |
I know some of you ladies are married. There was a time when I know I loved MM. I would have gone to the ends of the earth with him, or for him. He could just look at me and I would melt. I thought that this was the best feeling in the world. I can't describe this feeling any other way, it was intoxicating.
Now over the years it has all faded, into the sunset. We are barley friends. I know this is what some of you ladies describe of your feelings regarding your H's. You say that you have grown apart. So my questions is, was it really love? Does real love ever die? I know that we love our parents and siblings in a different way, but no matter what they do to us, we never quit loving them. So, what happens when we no longer lover our SO/spouses. Did we really love them from our hearts. Or, is this some feeling that has not yet been identified by man?

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Points to ponder as we go into the weekend...
Bfly
I have to preface my answer by saying I disagree on one point: I do not believe love for siblings, family members and even our children is wholly unconditional. I do believe all love is organic. It must be nurtured, fed, pruned, cared for, sunned, watered and all that stuff. Otherwise, any love can die, even between mother and child.
I say that because I have observed it first-hand, in my own family and in my H's. There are some things people will do to each other that are just horrible, and I do not believe blood is thicker than water. If my family can't treat me with the same respect I get from friends and acquaintances, then why should I treat them as a closed, loved member of my life?
So is it love? And can it last forever? Sure. If you take care of it. But some people just aren't compatible and no matter how much work you do, the love isn't going to be there. And some people are compatible but have differing definitions of love... in the end, are you happy to be with that person? Whether the sexual tension is there, the passionate energy or whatever, is that the person you're still happy saying good night to?
And whether it is or isn't, have you been doing your part to try to keep the love healthy?
I have been pondering this a lot myself lately...
and Lilah... a well-underutilized word, "louses"! I love it!
lily
I love the way you put that. I agree 100%! It seems I fall deeper inlove with my mm everyday. I find more and more to love about him. I'm sure the passion may change, although with us it seems to get more passionate as time has gone by, if that makes sense. But anyhow, I believe if you really are in love with someone, then it may change, but it will still be love.
Lucky
MM, and I have been through some real, real rough times, and I just think what we had is gone, and there is nothing to sustain our relationship. I wish it was, but I don't see it. Yet, it's hard for this relationship to just be about money and sex, there seems to be more, but not much more.
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