Is it really love????

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Is it really love????
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Fri, 09-19-2003 - 1:14pm
I know some of you ladies are married. There was a time when I know I loved MM. I would have gone to the ends of the earth with him, or for him. He could just look at me and I would melt. I thought that this was the best feeling in the world. I can't describe this feeling any other way, it was intoxicating.

Now over the years it has all faded, into the sunset. We are barley friends. I know this is what some of you ladies describe of your feelings regarding your H's. You say that you have grown apart. So my questions is, was it really love? Does real love ever die? I know that we love our parents and siblings in a different way, but no matter what they do to us, we never quit loving them. So, what happens when we no longer lover our SO/spouses. Did we really love them from our hearts. Or, is this some feeling that has not yet been identified by man?

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Registered: 09-03-2003
Mon, 09-22-2003 - 2:58pm
Is this a normal thing to happen? I can see my R going to that eventually, which is why I ask. Sometimes there are silences with us now, and there weren't in the beginning. Sometimes we'll talk about the future, but most of our conversations are "getting to know you" conversations. We end up finding out about what the other likes to do for fun, etc. Generally I find that what he likes to do and what I like to do are so drastically different... I don't want to put my entire life on the line for this guy if we're just going to end up someday sitting there with nothing to say to each other. Aren't you better in your M if you're going to just sit there with nothing to say? Or at that point is it just about the sex?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-22-2003 - 3:22pm
MM and I have known each other for about 16 years now. We know each other likes and dislikes. We were even a real couple for about 6 months (the months from hell) while he was seperated from his W, about a year ago.

Today the tension is very bad between us. For some reason he has his butt on his shoulders, and I'm not to the one to baby him. He seems to have major attitude today, I asked him why, and he said he just has a lot on his mind. Fine. I think maybe his W told him that she saw me driving past their house on Saturday. I'm sure she gave him hell about it, but until he says something to me about it, I'm not bring it up.

I do care about MM, I'm just not in love with him anymore. So, I don't quit know what to do. Because I do enjoy the sex, and the occassional date we get to have.

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