Is it really love?
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Is it really love?
| Fri, 01-23-2004 - 7:36am |
I want to know how many of the married ladies who left their spouses to be with the other man (if he made himself available too) remained happily ever after? I have read that (in an affair) the other person is just fulfilling a "few" of the needs. So lets say that once you live on a full-time basis with them does one discover that they fulfil all needs or not? Does all that magic and passion (over the period of time) blow out of the relationship once the intrigue and chase is gone?
I have had an emotional affair with a MM and am very skeptical of the idea of whether a perfect ending exists. Personally I am against cheating and would rather leave my hubby and marry the other person if I really have strong validation or statistics that such relationships can indeed be successful.
Thanks for your input. Men who left Ws can answer it too.
Edited 1/23/2004 7:38:17 AM ET by phillygirl69

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I understand what you are saying and agree with most of it.
What I think can happen is that you both stop and think before typeing your responses to each other and create answers that reinforce the image you want to leave with the other person about yourself(how things are phrased, the tone ETC...)
One thing that is common to most A online or not is that there is no real complete relationship that takes 24/7 together, mostly you get the best of the person even when you argue you both enjoy the makeing up.
You should bare in mind that you ownly see the parts of his mind that he wants you to see and the same is true for him.
Haveing said all that I would say that if you can keep it from getting out of hand you both could still enjoy an emotionaly satisfying friendship for years to come with little or no risk to anyone, BUT if you cross the line beware that the ride can be very rough for all involved.
Have a good day
FREE
Free, I wholeheartedly agree with this. I think there's a whole lot of things you can convince yourself of once you've determined that you've got this big, great love going on. I really do think a whole lot of this stuff is in our heads. We convince ourself of something and go with it. How many people have left their spouses for their A partners, only to figure out too late that they've just traded one set of problems in for another? How many of them realize once it's too late to go back that it's all pretty much the same once the dust settles down?
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