Is it time to Let Go?
Find a Conversation
Is it time to Let Go?
| Thu, 08-19-2010 - 12:38pm |
I'm having a rough day. For the past few days or so, I've had this feeling that AP and I are nearing the end of our rainbow. Is it time to let go?
Two weekends ago I went to a family bbq and I saw a friend of mine (he's married & wife was there too) he

Hi summer,
As a MM in an A with a single woman, my advice to you right now is to let go and get out. If you think your AP doesn't give a $hit about you, that's a huge sign.
I'll try to tone down the hard advice because I don't know your whole situation, but if he doesn't care for you, then the relationship is very one-sided -- you're giving him everything he wants/needs (e.g., sex, something different from his W, etc.) and you're getting nothing in return.
Like I said, my AP is single and she hasn't had any luck dating single men. Fortunately for me, she knows that I'm not leaving my wife, and she's cool with that. But I do genuinely care for her and show her that on a regular basis. If your AP isn't doing this at least sometimes, it's definitely time to rethink.
Hi Summer,
I would agree with Mr. Breastlover. Obviously the things you want and are looking for are not being met by your AP. You are worth much more then what he is giving you and its a great thing that you recognize that. You deserve someone that loves, cares and enjoys your company. You know your AP will not give you all these things to its full capacity because he's married, therefore he's very limited in what he can offer you. You are more then just an option.
My AP is single and believe me I've told him all this but he has chosen to stay. I know if I truly care for him that I should put him out his misery and let him go. Allow him to persue his happiness and not hold him back. I guess I'm very selfish but I feel in my heart of hearts that our end will be coming soon.
Please do what satisfies and makes your heart happy. In the beginning you will go through the motions but it will be worth it in the long run. That's something I have to continue telling myself in order to rid what I like to call my "addiction"...AP.
Wishing you much peace & strength.
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
<
Summer, I just found your thread. Had a busy weekend I guess, and forgot to look at the second page here this morning.
I can hear the pain in your post - it's no wonder a friend can see the pain in your eyes. From everything you say, I think that you should let go. This A is not fulfilling your needs right now, and it's hampering you from moving on to something that would fulfill you. If this R were enough for you, if it seemed to give you what you needed, I would tell you to think about it longer. But from what you said here, it seems the time is right to let go.
We can help you and hold your hand while you let go if you like. But the advice here is geared more toward sharing our A lives, and not necessarily conducive to ending an A. There is a board called "EAS" or "ending an affair" that you might like to try. Be aware that you should be fully committed to ending your A and not contacting your AP from now on for any reason, if you decide to post there. If you're not ready to make that commitment, you could just lurk, and especially read "The Healing Library".
Good luck sweetie! We're rooting for you do have the strength to do what you need to do!
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
Proud to be a
You've
Aw.