It was better than I expected!!!

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Registered: 05-02-2004
It was better than I expected!!!
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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:00am
I always thought that if I slept with me "friend" that it would be ackward the next day and I would have regrets the next day. I kept telling him I wasn't ready because I didn't want to complicate things. Well yesterday (after a month) when he asked what I wanted to do I said I wanted to complicate things. To my suprise it was so much better than I could have ever imagined. Then tonight it was even better then last and omg I feel things that I have never felt before. Am I suppose to feel this incredible or am I suppose to have regrets and feel bad for my marriage and for my husband, not to mention his marriage and his wife? This is both of ours first affair. I need advise in a bad way.

Missy

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Registered: 05-19-2004
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:24am
Missy,

I am new to this board as well, so I'm a little overwhelmed at how many of us share so many of the same situations and stories. I know from my own situation in the beginning of the EMA it is a total endorphin rush, as yours. The EMA gives you those exciting "fluttering" feelings that you want to hold onto forever. Not to mention that rush of excitement of "can I really get away with this"? It's a feeling that one wants to hold on and embrace because of something we are usually lacking in our own marriage, and it's being replaced with the MM.... and it's ELECTRIC! Sometimes we have remorse followed because of the guilt with our husband's, but the EMA usually keeps us coming back for more... hopefully not getting caught.

I have been involved for almost a year now with my MM, and don't regret a day. He is a wonderful man, who has helped me through a lot with my husband. And I too have helped him get through a lot with his wife. (I am learning the acronyms here :) ) But, you have to realize that there is usually a missing link in MOST, not all, relationships that bring a EMA together. Be there for each other, have fun, be honest and be careful! Tears flow easily in EMA's!

Jen

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 1:30am
I have had these really crazy thoughts all day. When I am with him I lose track of time and possibly reality. I held out on having sex with him because I wanted to make sure I was doing this for me and not out of anger or anything my husband has done. I feel like there is an emotional attachment there on my part (I hope as well as his). But last night I was really caught up in the mood and I almost said "I love you" I know he is not ready to hear that and I am really not ready to say it but I know that I am in love with him and don't know how to handle this. Advise on this would be greatly appriciated.

Missy