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| Tue, 12-01-2009 - 2:16pm |
Hey all,
I'm really glad to have found this board and could use some advice. Basically, I'm recently married to a wonderful man and have always been very happy with him. We're dealing with many of the typical challenges of newlywed life, such as managing money and learning to live with each other and all of that, but we're very open and communicative and overall fairly happy together.
My life outside of the marriage is a bit blah. I'm unhappy in my job, we recently moved to a new place where I'm having trouble finding my niche, and I haven't yet made many friends. So, I was thrilled to grab drinks with a coworker of mine. And we got to talking...realized we had a lot in common...ended up talking and drinking till pretty late, and of course, whoops, totally hooked up.
AHH! I never thought i'd ever do anything like this. So, I approached it as "whoops, drunk thing...never again.." and we even talked about it (he's also married) and agreed that it was definitely best to move on like it never happened.
Except that I can't stop thinking about him. I find myself fantasizing about him, thinking about him , daydreaming about him. I'm attracted to him and drawn to him, possibly because I'm lonely and want the attention? At the same time, I don't understand what to do--I love my husband and am in the process of building a marriage. Why on earth am I interested in somebody else? I keep thinking about how I can get involved with this coworker and get away with it...and that's a dangerous road I'm not sure I want to go down.
Any advice? Thanks everybody!

I think you are too far gone to stop. It's under your skin and now if you're like me about all you can do is let the A run its course. At least it's how I am. BTW that naughty tingling feeling is what I live for. For me it's addictive, has been all my life. Anyway, good luck.
-jana