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|Tue, 04-22-2014 - 4:37pm|
So my M has reached the point of my H and I having an official "don't ask, don't tell" policy, and we are in a comfortable place. We are good co-parents, and we get along fine, and we are good roommates. Neither of us wants anything that would hurt our child or cause confusion. We decided to just keep on where we are and reevaluate later on when our child is older and maybe could understand better. A couple times a month I have my girls' night, and he has his guys' night on occasion (though he is not as big of a "going out" person as me). It is on these nights that I flirt and let loose. So far I have had one ongoing flirtation via email and another sexting buddy, but I haven't gone "there" with anyone yet. I know it is bound to happen, I kind of just don't want to hook up for the sake of doing so. I feel like I have a free pass and want to use it on something great.
Which leads me to the person I currently am all worked up over. When I met him a couple years ago, I was not "open" in my marriage, and when he flirted with me, I told him I was married. After an EA that went nowhere ended several months ago, I ran into him again (literally five minutes later), told him I was going through a break up, and he and I hung out and flirted, but nothing happened. Apparently he took my non-explanation to mean I was getting divorced and wanted to give me space. Anyway, I have seen him several times since then, and I have attempted to explain my situation to him, but he thought I was lying. He now believesme because my story was cooberated by a third party.
Anyway, in the past couple of months, the flirting has escalated, and he now teases me, and tries to turn my words back around on me or pretend to be some wounded party. I never know if he is being serious or not. Last time I saw him he asked "how long" I would be in my situation before I left my M officially. I didn't have an answer. I asked him why he hasn't tried to kiss me, and he said kissing is too "emotional". Then he told me that the next time he sees me, if I am wearing a skirt (a certain skirt I was wearing when we first met), then he would know I am "ready".
I'm just trying to figure out if he is messing with me or if he is serious. I don't like having people tell me what to do, but I also like the idea of wearing the skirt for him. I will end up embarassed if I wear it and he still plays his little game and nothing happens. But if I don't wear it, then will he think I am the one playing a game?
What would you do? I enjoy this little game of give and take, but I kind of also want to find out what is behind door number one.