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Its all over
| Sat, 09-20-2008 - 8:35pm |
Well AP and I had a discussion today. Thought it was best for us to end things right now. He said he didn't know what he wanted and he was totally confused. I told him that was fine that I wanted what he thought was best for him. Is it what I wanted no but for him to be happy is what I want. I told him that if he decided otherwise I would be waiting for him. Probably not a good thing to say. So how long does it take to get over a 4 year relationship that has developed into loving each other so much. It was very difficult. I deleted every email I had. I deleted him off my friends list because I didn't want anything to remind me of him. He did say one thing to me that I really didn't like while we talking about all this. He said you will be free from me and move on now. But the problem is that is not what I want. The only reason I agreed to this is because I want him to be happy and if this is what will make him happy then I will do it. Even though it hurts like hell. He said he needed to get things straight in his head so I have to give him the space and respect to do so. So for those of you who have gone thru this part before should I expect to hear from him again or not?

Oh yeah, you'll hear from him.
I am sooo sorry to hear of your pain, this wont be easy on you two but i think maybe giving hima little space may help him realise he cant be without u?
Hope everything sorts out....
AP_Lied_To_Me!
xxx
How long does it take to get over a 4 year relationship?
A long time. Everyone's different, with different "speeds" of healing, but I would imagine it would take 6 mos. or so to feel even partly better.
One thing for sure - it takes WAY longer if you're not sure if it's really over, if you keep hoping he'll get in touch. You can't even really start counting till you KNOW it's over and you're walking away.
You have a choice somewhat. YOU can decide, here and now, that it's over, whether he gets in touch or not. When you think of any of the long term possibilities, none of them are really GOOD ones if you stay involved with him. If you can decide that it's OVER right now, then you can start the process of healing.
Otherwise, expect that the wound will be scratched and fussed with and get infected, etc., while you're waiting to know "for sure". The healing will be delayed and take longer in the end that way...
Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.
You've got a lot of choices. I