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Its All Over A & M
| Sat, 09-06-2008 - 5:55pm |
Ladies - I have been going through so much stress in my life with AP and H and last night I finally snapped.
| Sat, 09-06-2008 - 5:55pm |
Ladies - I have been going through so much stress in my life with AP and H and last night I finally snapped.
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I may be coming from a weird angle here so do correct me if I am wrong...
Your H is no longerr inlove with you?
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Lionness
I'm so sorry hun...I have to say also...please if you can...
DO NOT CALL AP AGAIN....just don't...i know you're mind is not clear right now but please do not give him the satisfaction of treating you like crap..
You have got so attached to AP that you still have the rose coloured glasses on..he obviously has no heart and does not really care.
Sweetie - Do one thing at a time if u can. Screw AP, reading that ... made me hate my AP even more. THey are all the same. Kick him to the curb.
Can you take a deep breath and work on your marriage now that your Dh is healthier, maybe you can start fresh. You guys had a stressful illness to get through - and you did it!!! That is worth something. I just think breaking up with AP and starting a divorce at the same time is a little much. I think all that anger should be direct to the A and then take another look at the M. Follow your heart.
We're all here.
MW
Lionness -
Honey - you have already received the best advice from all the other wonderful folks on the board - so I just want to restate the most important ones.
Number one - do NOT try contacting AP anymore.
I second Tiger's post absolutely!!
When reading your post, I also noticed that your self esteem is so low sweetie, and it seems like you have a hole in yourself, a hole that you may have tried to fill with this R. Your desperate "holding on" to this man and this R comes not from the worth of it and him, but from your need to keep this hole filled. The thing is, you need to fill the emptiness with something else. Not him, not the R, you need to let those go so that you can figure out what you REALLY need, what your soul and spirit need, to fill this emptiness once and for all.
Counseling is the best idea to figure everything out.
Good luck sweetie, I hope everything works out for the best. :-)
Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.
You've got a lot of choices. I
its soo true, MW, hearing about other AP's makes me think less and less of my AP, they all think alike, I think the fog is finally lifting for me, I can't even think good thoughts about him today, because of something he told me from his past, this weekend, it is really making me rethink this. I hope I can be strong, and pull myself out again. These men do not deserve us!
Lioness, if you call him, I will personally make it a point to drive to you and throw your phone in the river! Dont do it, I know it is tempting, but he will continue to hurt you over and over and over again, until nothing is left, if you think you hit bottom now, just wait, you will dig deeper and deeper, he is not good for you!
I agree with Lexi! What you're feeling now is not so much about AP, but about your self-worth. Affairs are dangerous that way -- something that makes us feel so good in the beginning, also has the ability to make us feel so bad as a person.
Please recognize that AP's deal is he is more concerned with himself than he is with you. By contrast, H sounds more concerned about YOU than himself.
You definitely need to talk with someone... find a counselor. Don't do anything rash. Your first step should be finding your way back to yourself. The rest will follow.
Take care!
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