It's been awhile...

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Registered: 09-22-2003
It's been awhile...
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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 5:25pm
Since I've actually posted here. I think the last time I was on was last year. I'm still with MM. It' been over 5 years we've been together. Things have been wonderful. Now I'm pregnant with baby#2. H and I are buying a mother/daughter with my parents. Our landlords are moving, and are selling in August. Our closing date is in July. H has been giving me problems because he wants to move by his parents. He is such a mama's boy. I don't want to go for various reasons. I've explained to him my concerns, and have put my foot down. My own parents told me that if he wants to go that bad, to let him. That they would help me out with the babies, and the house. They are very understanding. I feel, that I sacrificed alot in H's and our relationship. That now it's his turn to give a little. What's everyones take on this?
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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 5:49pm
ivy

OK whats a mother/daughter?? And why is your family supporting you NOT being with your H? Do they not like him very much???

I would stand my ground, I got moved across state lines 4 times in 20 years because my H thought it was best... don't let him push you around just because he wants to.

dd

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Registered: 09-22-2003
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:08pm
A mother/daughter is a two family house. My parents do like my husband, but I think they're just getting tired of his pushing me around. They would rather see me happy and alone, than married and miserable.

Since H's parents moved, he has been bothering me about leaving upstate. This is pretty much the only thing that I've never given in to. Before his parents moved, he necer mentioned moving. Now, it's a different story.

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Registered: 04-01-2004
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 6:58pm
Stick with your instinct on this - I have been too soft in the past - didn't put my foot or feet down on much of anything

Remember though the shoe is on both feet - you go to your parents for support just as he would go to his so you have to tread a fine balancing line so it doesn't appear you are playing favorites over your own parent's VS. his parents sort of thing -

If he is a mamma's boy then keep MIL as far away as possible ---

Nothing you do will ever be good enough from then on and there goes your self worth and self esteem ---

Do try to be reasonable -- it becomes hard when dealing with 2 different families and then your own family with your H to boot ----

Remember they come first - inlaws and all that comes later on

Do what is important to keep your family happy and you will be happy !!

Glad to hear things are good with MM ---

Welcome back I look forward to reading more of your posts

Kikki