It's Been a Long Time, so Here's the Final Chapter---REALLY

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Registered: 09-17-2007
It's Been a Long Time, so Here's the Final Chapter---REALLY
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Tue, 03-27-2012 - 1:38am

Hi all,

Many of you are new since I last posted or even commented on another's post (just about a year ago) and a lot has happened in that time.

I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I ended up where I needed to

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Registered: 09-29-2004
Angela I do.remember your story. So glad.to hear of your happy.ending. I remember when you got the apartment only.for him to back.out. didn't his wife come to the apartment with.him to tell you? I am.sorry you stayed with him for so long even knowing of other APs. Codtyependency will pull you down. Glad you finally broke the cycle and your prayers answered. I hope you have true happiness.
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Registered: 12-05-2006

Wow, this is all so foreign to me. I'm a one woman man who insists on the same in return.

I just broke up with my gf of 2.5 years because I was her first and she doesn't want to marry without knowing what else is out there and when she got the actual itch, I let her go.

I wish I could be there for her like your current man was for you, I miss my best friend but I just don't trust myself to resist having sex with her and I'm not ready to alter my identity to that extent.

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Registered: 09-10-2010

Hi Angela, I'm so happy for you that you found the one to spend the rest of your life with .

New Guy sounds like a Great Guy indeed!!! congrats!!!

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Registered: 09-17-2007
Glenn,

I was a one man woman until my husband of 29 years had an affair and left me for his OW, and told me no man would ever want me sexually again. Well, I set out to prove him wrong, and made a LOT of poor choices over the next five-plus years--the biggest was getting involved with AP. I thank God EVERYDAY for opening my eyes so I could see AP as he truly is, not thru the rose colored glasses I wore for far too long. I also thank Him for New Guy, and the love I feel when he walks into the room. It's not quite Paradise, but it's off the Roller-Coaster and out of the insanity of the affair. And that feel SOOO good now!

I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I ended up where I needed to

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Registered: 10-03-2011
Sounds like one long and crazy ride! Your new guy seems like a sweetheart! Congrats on the engagement and wish you a bright and happy future
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Registered: 09-17-2007
Thanks--it was crazy indeed! Looking back, I can't believe I gave him so much power, so much control, so much of my life! But I've taken the blinders off now, and the old adage, "Better late than never" is very fitting. I still have a few good years left in me, and I'm going to make the most of them with New Guy. He's not Superman, but he's awfully close. :) I wish all of you here the happiness that I have FINALLY found. I just had to start looking in the right places. Ciao!

I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I ended up where I needed to

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Registered: 12-05-2006

I understand about the power one gives to a long time spouse. My recent ex from a 23 year marriage