it's been a week!

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Registered: 06-01-2010
it's been a week!
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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 4:42pm

Hi all,


today it has been a week since I have seen or spoke to AP. I have found that I am having conflicting emotions ranging from sadness to anger each day. I hate feeling like this and feel at a loss as how I can control these emotions.


I am sad that AP has not contacted me and angry at him for leaving me in this state of not knowing.I am angry at myself for getting involved in this A knowing that someone was going to get hurt eventually.


I am also sad that AP can't even send me a message to say he wants to end it, that I mean so little to him that he is just ignoring me as though I no longer exist. I feel like our whole A has just been one big lie. All the things he has said to me and

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 4:56pm

Hi Ali,


The feeling of "not knowing" is horrible and I can understand why you are angry and upset and feel that the least he can do is let you know where you both stand but in A's there are no rules and his silence is speaking volumnes right now. Although he's not contacting you, that alone is saying to leave him alone. I know it hurts but maybe this is what you need to keep your head up and move forward. I know easier said then done but in A's usually someone if not both always get hurt. It comes with the territory and I'm sorry you are going through it right now.


Try to keep busy, get into some hobbies, shopping, kids etc and delete all his contact #'s, email address, IM's to stop from contacting him. You need to do alot of soul searching and maybe this is the time where you can really think of the pros and cons of this A.


Wishing you much strength and love!

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 06-01-2010
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 5:43pm

Hi Rayne,


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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 7:10pm

Oh Ali ..I just wanted to send you {{hugs}} because this situation must be so hard to deal with.

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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 9:12pm

Hugs Ali ... I am in the same boat as you ...

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Registered: 06-01-2010
Fri, 07-09-2010 - 12:39pm

Hi bird


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Fri, 07-09-2010 - 1:02pm

Hi Alli,


thanks for your reply I know that you are in a similar situation to me so you understand how hard it is wanting answers that you probably never get.


I agree that he is a coward and I think he is embarrassed to contact me because of the circumstances when we last saw each other. I think I am more frustrated today than angry but I know that I have to accept I might not get answers from him.


I have made a deal with myself today that I am going to try my hardest to move on with my life. I know it will be hard and I am not ready to date again just yet. I think this whole A has drained me emotionally and I need time on my own to recover and heal.


I have deleted his number although I have never contacted him via this as it is not his phone. I am trying to pluck up the courage to delete him from my facebook as that is where I tend to contact him but don't think I am ready to do that yet. I have not give in to the tempation to send anymore messages so that is a good sign.

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Sat, 07-10-2010 - 1:28am

Aw, I'm sorry it's been tough for you.

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Registered: 06-01-2010
Sat, 07-10-2010 - 10:01am

Hi Jane


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Registered: 05-29-2010
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 9:47am

Hi Ali

I am in exactly the same position as you. My AP got cold feet I think right before we were supposed to get together Sunday night and he bailed on me. Send me a text with these BS reasons and suggested we do it another time. That is the last I have heard from him, despite multiple texts from me. Basically the last ones have said that if he wants to end things, he needs to tell me instead of stringing me along because it is really cruel. STILL NOTHING!!!

I am so hurt and shocked and confused. My nerves are twisted and bunched and I feel sick nonstop. My heart is completely broken.

I don't understand why they can't just let us know. I agree with you that not knowing is worse. It's like torture. I just can't believe after all the things he said, how excited he was to meet up, that he would do this!

It's pathetic but I still have a sliver of hope that he will feel horrible and realize he wants me and make it all up to me. But mostly I am trying to just ease myself into accepting that it is over and I will probably never get the answers I desperately need.

This has hurt me so badly and I need to just crawl into a cave and lick my wounds for awhile. I have just deleted his number from my phone but am also having difficulty deleting him from facebook.

I'm so sorry you are feeling the same way Ali and in the same position. I feel like I can't do this, it just hurts so badly.

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Tue, 07-13-2010 - 4:23pm

Hi Lucy,


thanks for you reply I have just replied to your thread before