it's hard to keep this going
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it's hard to keep this going
| Sat, 08-23-2003 - 10:35pm |
i've been at this for a while. i struggle everyday with it. we see each other when we can,but that is not too often since we don't even live in the same city. we talk on the phone and email each other regularly to try and make up for things, but still it takes a toll. i love him so very much, but a great deal of the time i am w/o him.
i just want to hear how you all deal with it? how do you deal with being apart?
i just want to hear how you all deal with it? how do you deal with being apart?

It is good to know there is someone else out there who bears this. Who deals with the emails and phone calls and the not seeing each other at a whim. Thanks,:)!
It's a struggle and it sucks, but I'm still knee deep in it.
How come you haven't seen him in a year? Are you OK?
The best way I deal with the LD is keeping busy. It makes the time go by faster and somewhat keeps my mind off him (although not completely). This board helps a lot too. I don't think I have helped you any, but at least you should know that you are not alone. Take care!
I have tried to break it off so many times but it never lasts longer than two weeks.
What also keeps me going is that I don't pass up other healthy opportunities. I also have casual sex with other people when I meet someone that I find attractive but would never have a relationship with. Have fun on the side! Go nuts! Because even though there are actual feelings involved on your part and I'm sure on his part also...
Remember... to him, you are " a thing on the side " Don't ever feel guilty for having your cake and eating it to because isn't that what he's doing to you and his wife?
I do agree this board is a big help. Knowing that there are other women like me out there who understand. You have helped more then you'll ever know, :).
I keep busy. I continue with my life as such. I have a ex who continues to come over quite often and I see other aquaintences, but I just chose not to engage with them.
This whole thing is out of whack. Anyway you look at it. Nobody wins, but yet, we still continue to be in it. Don't we?
Just remember the good times and know that when you see him they'll be a lot of catching up to do, ;).