It's over

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2008
It's over
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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 1:15am

My A is over.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2008
In reply to: the_6
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 6:35am
Sorry you have to go through this. I can imagine the pain you're in. I thought my A was ending and it was painful just thinking about it.

Hope you will feel better soon, now just focus on yourself while your going through the healing process. Things will get better in time.

Hugs.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2007
In reply to: the_6
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 10:50am
It hurts initially but keep busy and this too shall pass.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2008
In reply to: the_6
Tue, 09-30-2008 - 10:52am
I am sorry you are hurting. It will take time but it will get better. I think for now the friend's thing should be avoided. Total NC is what is needed. it would be to easy to slip back into the A nad then when it ends again the pain would start anew. Please let us know if you need anything.







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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-18-2008
In reply to: the_6
Tue, 09-30-2008 - 12:30pm
I am so sorry you are hurting. We are here for you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2008
In reply to: the_6
Wed, 10-01-2008 - 10:57am

He has sent me a few texts since the weekend saying how sorry he is, how much he loves me, how we made the committment to be friends and he won't break that. I feel he is sincere. He sent me one yesterday saying he wants to talk.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2007
In reply to: the_6
Wed, 10-01-2008 - 11:27am

Hi -


First - you can post wherever you want honey - if you feel you get the input you need here - post here - post at EAS - post wherever you need to - we are all here for you.


I agree - at this point - I do not think you need to talk to him - a decision has been made - you both need to live with it and move on.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-05-2004
In reply to: the_6
Wed, 10-01-2008 - 5:26pm

I'm so sorry for you, there's nothing any of us can say other than that.... but I truly hate that you are hurting like that.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2008
In reply to: the_6
Wed, 10-01-2008 - 9:36pm

I don't know if I'm 100% in the right frame of mind to reply to you but my heart does go out to you. You know, the longer I'm in an AP, the more I sit and wonder where and why love got so messed up. Its like, you love someone, they love you...but there's the whole other world to deal with. You know being together makes you happy, you're miserable WITHOUT each other, but yet....its the hardest thing in the world to

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2008
In reply to: the_6
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 3:40pm

The problem is *I* don't want it over. I want him in my life..indefinitely. We never made promises of leaving our spouses and yes it's hard..but..I wanted to be the typical cakeeater I guess. Stay married and stay in my A. Awful I know..but it is what it is.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-12-2008
In reply to: the_6
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 5:46pm

I have been dealing with the same thing for the past 6 weeeks. My AP ended it over the phone. Saying that now after 3 years of no sex with his wife, she wants to go to marriage counseling and work on it. ( I just cant undertand that)He said he couldnt continue with me if she was

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