It's over

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Registered: 09-05-2008
It's over
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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 1:15am

My A is over.

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Registered: 09-05-2008
In reply to: the_6
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 7:59pm

Thanks so much for your post...it made me feel good. Today was much better .... I haven't cried at all. Being out and around people is good.

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Registered: 06-06-2008
In reply to: the_6
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 12:10pm

Oh Sweetie I know you are so heart broken. I can't fathom how I would feel if my MM told me that it was over. I am ashamed to admit that I would be destroyed, and wonder if I could go on, so I just can't begin to think of what to say to try and comfort you.

I know this much, when you have as many feelings involved as you and AP have, he may tend to straddle the fence, but don't let him honey, it will only drive you insane, and the scab would just keep getting ripped off over and over w/ out the time to heal. When my MM and I were together the first time 6 yrs. ago, he straddled the fence, for different reasons,he was afraid that because I cheated on my H w/ him, that I might cheat on him for another, but still the same affect. Today we just can't be together, tomorrow he can't take another breath until we are together again. He was so bad about straddling the fence that he went to counseling, and finally he made up his mind, and went back w/ his W. Only to torment me for six years. Always trying to start the relationship again. I would push him away, and then give in, then he was on the damn fence again. He is secure in my love for him now, but anyway this is about you.

I think the best thing for you is to throw yourself into something. Your children are always a great investment, and it would tickle them to death if you became a class parent or something. Take a ceramic's class, or take a sign language course. Something, anything that will help you get through these first few weeks. I was always told the best way to get over a guy is to get another, but that doesn't really fit this situation, unless you try again w/ H ( I can't remember if you are married or not) Just try to stay busy, and like they have always told me......Breath.

I know this will be a feeble attempt to comfort your pain in the beginning, but as my dear, sweet mother use to tell me "Honey, believe it or not, this too shall pass."

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