It's so damn good!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-05-2004
It's so damn good!
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Mon, 04-05-2004 - 3:13pm
Hello All!

I have been reading messages on this board for many months now and have decided to add my two cents. Just to give some brief background. I am single and involved in an A with a MM for a year now. He lives in the next state and we see each other 2-3 times per week. It's been good....great even, but one thing is for sure, A's are not for the weak at heart. You have to know what you want and expect from the A and what you are willing to give. I don't wish and hope that he leaves his W for me, that's the last thing I would want! Don't get me wrong, I love him and he loves me, we enjoy our time together for what it is when we get it. He treats me with respect and would literally do anything for me, which is a wonderful feeling. We have fun together and the sex has been and still is amazing. When and if our time comes to part (and it will), it will be hard.....but we have been honest with each other from the start and we will always remain friends.

To those of you who are struggling in these A's...if it doesn't feel good and can't be good for you. Find someone who truly deserves you. Don't settle!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-03-2004
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 10:22pm
I am involved for the first time and am struggling real hard. I have been in an abusive marriage for 12 years (have children) and then a 3 year engagement which ended with him breaking my heart and throwing me and my kids on the street. I've had to start from scratch and can tell you I was not in the least interested in another relationship. This man literally stalked me (unknowest to me, of courst, he later admitted it) and I've since fallen for him hard. But I'm a one man woman and when I give my heart it's for keeps and I'm in a no win situation. I think I'm loving him more now, where at first it was him. He has the reins, now and it's killing me inside. I'm hopelessly in love with him, want no one else, feel I'd be cheating hom him .... help...I'm sinking real bad.