its such a good feeling when

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Registered: 06-08-2007
its such a good feeling when
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Thu, 01-15-2009 - 7:55pm
Your ap or xap just really wants to spend time with you. Today he took me out to lunch. We talked and had a really nice time. He also let me drive his car.we enjoyed each others company.

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Registered: 12-15-2003
Sun, 01-18-2009 - 9:17pm
thats really nice tori.
~k
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Registered: 06-08-2007
Sun, 01-18-2009 - 9:44pm
it's not easy to find a true sincere person. when that one comes along that you have connection with, god don't let that person walk away.value your friendship.
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Registered: 01-27-2008
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 2:11am

If it makes you smile, if it makes you feel good, if it makes you get up of a morning thinking 'you know what no matter what happens today i know i have a true, trustworthy friend that i can turn to, then Tori its worth it. Like anything else life is short, life is only one, and if your happy with where you are both at then enjoy enjoy enjoy.


take care


SS

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Registered: 01-16-2009
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 2:57am

Hijack, Hijack!

I'm just really curious about how one can go from the extreme feelings that come from being in an A, to "Friends?" I mean I love my son's father/AP w/ all my being, and seeing him when we were split up was one of the hardest things that I've ever had to do, and I have had to do some HARD crap in my life. How do you take your emotions down 150 notches to back to friends? I just can't imagine, but I'm willing to learn because he is the father of my child, and in the event that things don't work out I still have a bond w/ him that will last a lifetime. Maybe you'll can give me some edumaction.

Justice

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 3:07am
it's very hard, believe me. i still have the feelings. to me having that bond, still having him in my life, the friendship we've built is so important to me, i've learned to deal with my emotions. i'll throw them all by the way side to keep my friendship, the bond that has grown between us. he has a clear consience. and can still be in my life.
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Registered: 01-18-2009
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 10:47am

Crime...

I wouldn't take any advice from tori on how to be friends, because the fact is she may act like she wants to be "friends", but in reality, she is just chomping at the bit to be back in the affair with him. Read her posts. Go back and read them. She's kidding herself and so is he. Just give it time. They'll be back in the affair, I guarantee it.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 12:14pm
You have no idea how i handle my life and my affair with my xap. You have ni idea wha i want or what he wants. You are in the wrong place to judge.
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Registered: 01-18-2009
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 2:06pm

I'm not judging. Just pointing out the obvious. Look, you have an entire thread on this board devoted to picking out just the right outfit in which to meet your AP in. But you want us to believe that this "friendship" is all you're interested in. That it's all so innocent. Baloney. When was the last time you spent days in advance planning your "look" to get together with any other friend in your life? Try never, I'm positive

You may not be doing anything sexual with this man at this moment, but you are kidding yourself if you think that you're not desiring it. I'm absolutely positive that you are merely biding your time until he caves. Maybe not consciously, but it's there. You can't go on and on and on and on and on about someone and even remotely claim that the affair is over and it's just all friendly now. B.S. Get real with yourself. We can see the truth....why can't you?

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