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| Tue, 02-03-2004 - 8:12pm |
I am so jealous when OM talks another woman and is ignoring me. Anybody feel the same way?? Its as if he is trying to avoid me. He gives me curt buisness answers while he will hang around the beautiful blonde in our group chatting with her for long. Grrrrr.... I am jealous - almost insane...

Edited 2/5/2004 12:34:38 PM ET by opal_fire
Edited 6/15/2009 12:19 pm ET by opal_fire
i read your discussion and I feel so bad for you. I can totally relate. But my jealousy has nothing to do w/ other women. My MM and I have been together for just a couple of months. We love each other very deeply. We spend 3-4 hours, 4-5 times a week together. It's wonderful. HOwever, he owns his own consulting firm so every now and again he goes out of town on business. I am around often enough to know that he is out of town on business and nothing else. I do though get jealous when he is out of town that I can't be with him or talk to him as often as normal. I often have to weight until after lunch and right before bed to talk to him. So it's frustrating. I want to be first more than I am.
depending on your relationship w/ the OM is a better gauge and wheter i would say anything. b/c if you are just sex to him then he will not care that he is hurting you. but if you are more than that then i would tell him. he will stop immediately. turn up the flirting yourself with him. be more attentive than the blonde. good luck
leslie
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Edited 6/15/2009 12:20 pm ET by opal_fire
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Edited 6/15/2009 12:21 pm ET by opal_fire
We are supposed to be in this just for the sex - so maybe my A is different. We are supposed to be "friends" first and want to preserve that over anything. Yeah - he just doesn't want any strings! One thing I realized before we started our A was that he is a flirt, likes attention and I can't really trust him - afterall, he is lying to his wife who he has no intention of leaving. So why wouldn't he lie to me as well?
I'm mostly just venting here - I have to evaluate how much I value this - because in my opinion being involved with a MM who is lying to his wife in the first place is someone I can't put 100% trust in. By the way - I'm married too and will not allow myself to fall in love with this man - this is something I am doing for ME, something to give me a boost and explore a side of myself I cannot with my husband. Actually, I don't know what this all has to do with the thread - I just needed to talk and vent! I'm trying to figure out how this makes me feel and if it is worth it - feeling jealousy is not something I want to feel but I do!