Though none of us really have any kind of "claim" over our AP's (whether they're single or married), I'm sure a lot of us wouldn't like the thought of them with someone else.
I agree with anothereyes, but I also can see that it would be so hard for you to take that step back.
I am involved with a single guy. I actually do encourage him to date, because I don't want me to be his final relationship. I don't intend to leave my marriage, so I don't want him to have only a g/f who can never go to his family's birthday parties or get togethers, can never sleep over, can never get to know his friends and relatives. I feel so sad sometimes when I think of it all. Being with me might very well have stopped him from finding the girl who COULD be all those things, even though I have told him to go for it if he finds someone he'd be interested in.
And yet, in his case, I would feel like I was deserting him if I broke it off before he actually was with someone. Lots of stuff there that get in the way of his finding someone, I'm just part of the picture.
Anyway I have gotten jealous the times he did date someone. I know how it is. I feel for you. Can't do much more than listen and give you (((hugs))).
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You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
My lover and I are passionate people and I can't bear the thought of another woman flirting him...as far as his wife I don't feel jealousy towards her at all.
As far as him he gets incredibly jealous which for the life of me I can't change but jeez I have yet to find a man who is one tenth what he means to me...or have any interest in for that matter. He fills all my empty spaces we adore one another.
My AP is SM ,divorced with older kids .He doesnt want a 24/7 relationship and says that other women make him sick.He is a wealthy guy and could have anyone other chick but we click ! He has women throwing themselves on him,in front of me from the same society we go around in but he is so done with all that.Do I feel jealous when they throw themselves and eye him out? Crazy as hell!!! but he makes it up later ;) A bit of jealousy is healthy ;)
Many ((((hugs)))) Rayne!
Though none of us really have any kind of "claim" over our AP's (whether they're single or married), I'm sure a lot of us wouldn't like the thought of them with someone else.
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I agree with anothereyes, but I also can see that it would be so hard for you to take that step back.
I am involved with a single guy. I actually do encourage him to date, because I don't want me to be his final relationship. I don't intend to leave my marriage, so I don't want him to have only a g/f who can never go to his family's birthday parties or get togethers, can never sleep over, can never get to know his friends and relatives. I feel so sad sometimes when I think of it all. Being with me might very well have stopped him from finding the girl who COULD be all those things, even though I have told him to go for it if he finds someone he'd be interested in.
And yet, in his case, I would feel like I was deserting him if I broke it off before he actually was with someone. Lots of stuff there that get in the way of his finding someone, I'm just part of the picture.
Anyway I have gotten jealous the times he did date someone. I know how it is. I feel for you. Can't do much more than listen and give you (((hugs))).
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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((hugs)), I know how you feel..Just the thought of my AP with another woman drive me crazy. However he is single and I have no right to him.
My lover and I are passionate people and I can't bear the thought of another woman flirting him...as far as his wife I don't feel jealousy towards her at all.
As far as him he gets incredibly jealous which for the life of me I can't change but jeez I have yet to find a man who is one tenth what he means to me...or have any interest in for that matter. He fills all my empty spaces we adore one another.
A bit of jealousy is healthy ;)