Jealous rages over AP with another

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Jealous rages over AP with another
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Mon, 05-17-2010 - 11:04am

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 05-03-2010
Mon, 05-17-2010 - 5:02pm

Many ((((hugs)))) Rayne!


Though none of us really have any kind of "claim" over our AP's (whether they're single or married), I'm sure a lot of us wouldn't like the thought of them with someone else.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Tue, 05-18-2010 - 8:32am

I agree with anothereyes, but I also can see that it would be so hard for you to take that step back.

I am involved with a single guy. I actually do encourage him to date, because I don't want me to be his final relationship. I don't intend to leave my marriage, so I don't want him to have only a g/f who can never go to his family's birthday parties or get togethers, can never sleep over, can never get to know his friends and relatives. I feel so sad sometimes when I think of it all. Being with me might very well have stopped him from finding the girl who COULD be all those things, even though I have told him to go for it if he finds someone he'd be interested in.

And yet, in his case, I would feel like I was deserting him if I broke it off before he actually was with someone. Lots of stuff there that get in the way of his finding someone, I'm just part of the picture.

Anyway I have gotten jealous the times he did date someone. I know how it is. I feel for you. Can't do much more than listen and give you (((hugs))).

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Registered: 04-06-2010
Tue, 05-18-2010 - 2:20pm

((hugs)), I know how you feel..Just the thought of my AP with another woman drive me crazy. However he is single and I have no right to him.

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Wed, 05-19-2010 - 1:41am

My lover and I are passionate people and I can't bear the thought of another woman flirting him...as far as his wife I don't feel jealousy towards her at all.

As far as him he gets incredibly jealous which for the life of me I can't change but jeez I have yet to find a man who is one tenth what he means to me...or have any interest in for that matter. He fills all my empty spaces we adore one another.

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Registered: 05-19-2010
Wed, 05-19-2010 - 10:45am
My AP is SM ,divorced with older kids .He doesnt want a 24/7 relationship and says that other women make him sick.He is a wealthy guy and could have anyone other chick but we click ! He has women throwing themselves on him,in front of me from the same society we go around in but he is so done with all that.Do I feel jealous when they throw themselves and eye him out? Crazy as hell!!! but he makes it up later ;)
A bit of jealousy is healthy ;)