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Juliet?
| Thu, 05-06-2004 - 11:58am |
What went so horribly badly wrong that you have had such a change of heart? Girl you did a 180. I read it fleetingly somewhere that he had said those ugly words to you earlier in your relationship too but I guess it didn't have the effect on you then than it has now. Do you think that since now you are divorcing your hubby, you feel more vulnerable and it seems like he is holding more power (its more like a ball in his court now since he is single) and that if OM is back peddling on whatever his earlier plans were (to be with you), its making you feel rejected. Just wondering! Your story, if you care to share, could have helpful effects for many who might be stuck in a confusion stage and may have too much of "grass is greener on the other side" view.
In any case, hope everything works out for you and you are able to do or undo whatever it takes to get you to happiness.
PG
BTW, you said he might read these boards too so are you trying to get back at him? :-P

Yes he has said the F word more than once to me and yesterday was the last straw. I demand and need more respect than that. See the thing about our R is that he always had power even if was with H. I guess that should have told me something, but like they say hindsight is 20/20...
As far grass is greener theory, I always thought OM and me would be harder than H & me. We are different culturaly/religious etc. I was prepared for hardships on the way. But hearing insults from somebody whom somebody who needs to stand by inspite of hardships we have been through somehow did not cut it for me. There will have be more adjustments on the way if we were to be an item openly. It wasn't going to be easy. I guess I have come to realize over the few weeks that he is not ready to be in a R like ours because he does have what it takes to be in it - a big generous and broad minded heart. It was my mistake to think that he had it.
Thanks for you questions. This post was very theraputic. I hope I too find the right man soon. Oh, speaking of that I have a lunch with somebody who is more respectful of me than my OM. who knows?? It might work out. gotta go!!
oh, I don't think he needs to read this board to get my moods and insults. :-)