Jumping in with eyes wide open

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Jumping in with eyes wide open
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Sat, 07-04-2009 - 4:26pm

Hi,

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Registered: 07-09-2008
Sat, 07-04-2009 - 4:58pm

Hi,


I suppose I should be happy for you, but then why do I feel a sense of dread looming? Maybe because your post reminds me of so many other's post in the beginning... the affair is "fun", "exciting", "thrilling', and then it turns sour... Why not find a single available man?


My xAP told me lies from the beginning that he wasn't married and til this day he still claims he's "not married".


All I have to say is becareful...he made it clear he's not leaving so what's the point of being with him?

 

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Sat, 07-04-2009 - 8:29pm

Yeah, I don't want to be a damper on your excitement - I remember what it feels like, the giddiness and butterflies and fun...

But I sort of saw a red flag when you said he was out all night with you and didn't seem to catch hell for it. That suggests he's been doing that sort of thing for awhile. MAYBE he's been doing it with guy friends, but probably not - probably he's had other affairs and his wife is used to him being out late or all night a lot. (Not that she really knows why, but she is used to the behavior). He might be a player. Tread carefully. You can bet if this was a new behavior for him, she'd have been up all night worried and would give him hell when he got in.

Anyway I can tell that nothing anyone says will sway you from seeing him some more. But a question that Lost asked - why bother with someone married when you're single - why not just look for an available guy? So much heartache sometimes with a MM.

Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.

Proud to be a



You've got a lot of choices. I
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Sun, 07-05-2009 - 2:13pm

Hi Lost,

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Sun, 07-05-2009 - 2:21pm

Hi Lexione,

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Registered: 09-28-2006
Mon, 07-06-2009 - 10:12am

Mom,


Hi.


Warning - this will anger many who read here.

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Mon, 07-06-2009 - 10:42am

Hi Flying,

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Registered: 06-26-2006
Tue, 07-07-2009 - 12:27pm

I was wondering if you were the same gal I used to talk with

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Wed, 07-08-2009 - 2:00pm

" Jumping in with eyes wide open"

even then its very easy to fall over!! just take it for what it is and dont keep your expectations very high.Be careful,not to fall in love quickly and take it slow so that you stay awake.