just curious... how do you "meet" online

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just curious... how do you "meet" online
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Sat, 05-09-2009 - 1:15am
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Edited 6/12/2009 2:15 pm ET by artychokey
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Sat, 05-09-2009 - 1:32pm

Ok...Yes. I admit it. I met the men I have had A's with online. 3 total over a 2 year span. Yes, it was Ashley Madison. It was introduced to me by a friend who knew of my issues at home. At first...it was just a physical thing. I thought that if I could just have that missing part fulfilled, I could deal with, or not put so much thought into, the other issues.


However, my current AP (yes, we met on that site, also) & I were both taken aback by what we found in each other. And now...well...I'm in love. So is he. He & I, both being M are on equal footing.


As for going that route...it depends what you are looking for, 1st off. 99% of men on that site are looking for just a PA...although they'll promise a little more. From my coversations with these men, a lot of the women on that site are just trying to make those men part with their money. They call those women "Porn-bots". There's a few women looking for a "sugar-daddy" & a few men willing to fit that bill. I would NOT

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Sat, 05-09-2009 - 6:14pm

I used to frequent adult oriented message boards. They were not meeting places, like Ashley Madison, they were just message boards that allowed freer talk than most of them. They pretty much don't exist anymore. It was around 1996 that I found my first one, and it was just so much fun. It was a fantasy land. We set up topics that were "bars" and "livingrooms" and "funnyfarms". With our alternate personalities we would go for coffee in the mornings (yeah there were coffee shops) and hang out all day long. Most people posted from work - workplaces did not know enough to block all those sites then. We'd act out scenarios or just be ourselves - it was our choice whether to just be our character and never reveal much about our true self, or whether to share real life stuff.

I met my OM there. I made many friends there. We used to call the whole internet "Hotel California" because once you were there, it seemed like you could never leave, no matter how hard you tried...

Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.

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Sat, 05-09-2009 - 9:04pm

Met my OM in Second Life.

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Sat, 05-09-2009 - 11:01pm
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Edited 6/12/2009 2:16 pm ET by artychokey
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Sun, 05-10-2009 - 3:18am

Met my BF (former AP) playing an online game called Slingo - there is a chat feature attached - and we just started talking

lightning in my heart

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Sun, 05-10-2009 - 11:01am
Mine was a chat room.
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Mon, 05-11-2009 - 12:00pm
Yes it is.
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Mon, 05-11-2009 - 4:46pm
I do not recommend meeting anyone online....too many nuts plus it makes it easier for them to lie about who they really are. I prefer the old fashion way....in person...there are so many men out there that is just too easy to meet one...who needs online for that?
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Tue, 05-12-2009 - 10:57am
I totally agree! I tried a few times and guess what one of the guys did? The picture he had put up was of when he was 35 and now he was 50.what a disappointment ! he was not bald or anything but not as young /handsome as he projected himself to be.
Bad idea.In person is the way for me.
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Tue, 05-12-2009 - 11:47am
I am not surprised! I just love the old fashion way of meeting someone. What happend before computers?? I mean really......I guess I am old fashioned because