just feeling greedy ??

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Registered: 07-10-2010
just feeling greedy ??
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Sat, 07-10-2010 - 5:33pm

I've been married for 10 yrs, have 2 kids. Everything is OK in the marriage- they're not GREAT, we stress over money and the everyday stuff, but it's not like I've been contemplating getting a divorce or even taking a break. Sex is still good when it happens, but we've definitely slowed it down. We're just circling the airport I guess...

anyways a few weeks ago a group from work went out for drinks and my work crush was there. He is single, a few years older, and cute (but not in a cocky way). We're friendly acquaintances at work- he works in a different department, but he has to come into our dept at least twice a day. Every time he comes up, he stops by my desk and chats for a few minutes.

so at the after work thing, I got really hammered. I could blame the alcohol, but I can at least admit to myself that I wasn't THAT drunk. I ended up going home with him, and the sex was AMAZING. I've had good sex with other partners, but this was ridiculous. I even stayed into the morning so we could get in a few rounds when we were "sober". I used the excuse that i fell asleep at my sister's house so H wouldn't ask where i was all night.

Now AP and I text all the time and take lunch and break at the same time - we don't go "together" it's just enough to see each other at the same time in the same area or hang out with other people. Besides I'm not stupid enough to get the office gossips talking... but he is really sweet and will text that he likes my hair down or the color of my shirt. all that stupid high school stuff.

He wants to know when we're going to get together again and since I'm the one with a more rigid schedule he's leaving it up to me. I'm going into this with my eyes open. I've already told him that I'm not planning on leaving my husband and I'm not looking for anything long term.

I just want to sleep with him again, is that just being greedy?

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Registered: 04-27-2010
Sat, 07-10-2010 - 5:46pm

Hi ramseyfan :) Assuming you're new...welcome to MAS :)


OK...first, many a woman **thinks** she can keep it all "physical". Some women can, and you may very well be one them. Just a little warning and a little physiology "lesson" :) Due to the hormone oxytocin, which is dumped into your body during sex, you will VERY LIKELY become VERY emotionally attached to this man. Just FYI...


No one here will begrudge your feelings of wanting something exciting outside your M, just know it will come with a price...often a HEFTY one, which can/does manifest in all sorts of ways.


Good luck to you...

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Registered: 05-03-2010
Sat, 07-10-2010 - 11:12pm
Not being greedy at all, but I have to agree with what kimber said.

anotherseyes

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Registered: 07-10-2010
Sun, 07-11-2010 - 4:46pm

yes i am new to this board... i've been looking for someplace to unload and lo and behold I found you guys!

i just really hate feeling conflicted. i had lunch with AP today and it was just fun hanging out and talking... I told him i still wasn't sure where i wanted this to go and he said he is fine with waiting for me. i tried doing a nice dinner with H last night since i thought maybe I was just missing the "good old days" but it didn't work out the way I'd hoped. :(