Just got off the phone...

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Registered: 03-01-2011
Just got off the phone...
Wed, 08-01-2012 - 1:42am

with H.

He wants to take "us" (the kid, he and I) to the zoo for our anniversary. I mean, he wants to get out of town for a few nights and go to the zoo. Am I awful for feeling let down by this? I'm a champagne and piano bar kind of girl...does he not know me or is he only thinking of the little one? I mean, I need some romance! UGH!!!! Do I sound awful or is it fair for me to want to spend time with HIM ALONE!!? To be fair to me....we haven't done that for the LONGEST time!!! Like, maybe a year even?

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Wed, 08-01-2012 - 9:27am

He's not going to know how you feel unless you tell him. Tell him how you miss being ALONE with him & you'd much prefer to celebrate your special day with champagne & piano bar. I don't see how he can get upset over that especially if your stressing how much you miss him.

Have fun with  your H Blue....make it equally special for him as well.


Much peace & Love,



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Registered: 05-15-2012
Wed, 08-01-2012 - 10:31am
Tell him the zoo is fine for the family, but WE need time together, alone, that evening, out on the town.
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Registered: 07-08-2011
Wed, 08-01-2012 - 4:02pm

It does seem, by your admission, that you've neglected your husband while being in your A (and I think, all of us, no matter how much we think to the contrary, do the same). Could it be he's 'sensed' you haven't exactly seemed to want time alone, with just the two of you, in the past few years? He may be trying to protect his own heart by holding back a bit.

Tell him what you've told us.


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Registered: 03-01-2011
Wed, 08-01-2012 - 4:14pm

Yes, you guys are right...I should tell him...the thing is...I HAVE!!!! I have told him several several times in the past few months that it would be great to go out to a piano bar or something like that. He has made NO move. I joke about it now "Oh I guess I should find a nice guy to take me to a PIANO BAR!"


Maybe he's mad at me still? Maybe he doesn't care. I'm just sad. I did mention to him that I am so disappointed that he planned a zoo outing...etc. He said he's sorry and he can see how that would be hurtful. So now, it's great that he wants to go out alone because I freaked out but where's the romance in that? I guess I have to try to rebuild it? I can't be mad at him really...just kind of sad?