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just had baby and affair
| Tue, 08-19-2003 - 9:53am |
I've been having an affair for about a year and a half with someone I work with. I just had a baby and we're still not really sure who the father is. I love my husband but I love this man as well. He means the world to me and I would love to raise my family with him. I feel really bad leaving my husband and I don't know what to do. I don't want to take his family away from him. Our marriage has been stale for a long time and he really wants to try and fix it. I don't know if it's fixable if I"m in love with someone else. Please help.

I have been reading your posts and just wanted to comment. Is it possible for you to just seperate from H and try and work things out for you. What do you want and what is best for you and your baby? It seems that you are being pulled in both directions (by OM and H) and they are not even asking what you want. You have to think of yourself first and worry about OM and H later. Do you even know what you want to do right now? I'm thinking that maybe if you had time to figure it out on your own without the influence of H or OM you would come to some conclusions on who you want to be with and who you want to help raise your baby. Can you get some counseling, because maybe a third party could help you work thru your feelings and find what it is you want? Remember that first and foremost your concerns should lie with being a good mom and taking care of your baby and yourself, the men will survive with whatever you decide but they can't push you.
Just think about some of these things and remember we are here for support in whatever you decide. Remember that this IS YOUR DECISION. Good luck and keep us posted. DAF